So I have this friend. Many years ago we were very close; she was even one of my bridesmaids (been married over 5 yrs). We haven't seen each other much in recent years because she moved away. I went to see her a few times, she came down to visit a few times but we kind of just drifted apart because our lives are in such different places. She is single & has no kids, and is still kind of living the party lifestyle. I haven't spoken to her since my loss; she called me on my bday in January & left a happy bday message but that was around the 3 month mark after we lost Nathaniel and I was NOT in a good place so I never called her back.
Our moms are friends too; her mom moved away a few years ago as well so they don't see each other often anymore but they saw one another a few months ago at a wedding. I'm sure that's where her mom heard about our loss, if she didn't know already since they have other friends in common.
So I got a voicemail from my friend about a week ago- all upbeat, happy, "Hey girl how's it goin" kind of thing. Haven't talked to you in forever, let's catch up, etc. I texted her back saying sorry I haven't called you back, the past 6 months have really sucked. See my fb page for a brief synopsis. I'll call you later when I'm not at work and can talk more. So she texts me back- Well I'm not on fb much but my mom told me that you lost your baby, I'm so sorry, I know from losing my dad that nothing anyone can say can make it better, if you ever want to talk call me, etc.
I'm kind of pissed. I felt like, you KNEW about the baby and you never called me or sent me a message? And then listening to her message after knowing that she knew... the part about wanting to catch up- what did she think I have to catch up on?? The fact that she knew & didn't contact me is upsetting me. I realize this relationship has drifted apart so I'm trying to see this for what it is but I feel that my judgment is just too clouded by my experience at this point. My gut reaction is to just let this friendship go since it was already headed that way it seems. I honestly wish she had just lied and pretended she didn't already know. What do you ladies think? What would you do if this was your friend?