Kinda hard with the Memorial Day weekend & knowing that I should have been planning a 1st birthday party right about now instead of being the momma of a little guy who just got his first teeth last month. Don't get me wrong I love my little man....I just will always wonder what could have been & I would have experienced pregnancy & motherhood in a diff way. A happier way.
One thing that has always bothered me was that since my loss wasn't a stillbirth or a miscarriage...the hospital never really acknowledged my loss even though I was there 3 nights. I really want to start a group (with diff subgroups) of ladies who have experienced a loss here locally & maybe we can do something for people who are stuck in the hospital under such terrible circumstances. Like flowers, card, or giftbasket....not there to see or bother anyone. I would have loved the the words "I am sorry for your loss". My doctor at the time didn't even said that. Let me know what you think.
Re: In memory of our babies.....
((HUGS)) I went through a very similar thing with my ectopic. I was even brused black like you were & was told in a follow up appt that I had DIC (a blood clotting disorder) that caused the bleeding. I found out when I had my son nothing was wrong with me-they probably nicked me during surgery. I had pain for about 8 weeks after the surgery (my old doctors office could never get me in for the pain bc I wasn't pregnant at the time or a priority patient). I even thought I had gotten pregnant again because pregnancy tests were coming up positive. My old practice saw me after the positive test & even said I was pregnant again & having another ectopic. I went for a second opinion at that time bc they wanted to give me methotrexate without doing an ultrasound. They also said there was a good chance I would never have a normal pregnancy.
I found out from my current doctor.... They left tissue in my UTERUS & I wasn't pregnant at that time-it was left from the surgery. How it got there I'll never know & I'll never know if I lost 1 or 2 babies. My current doctor wasn't sure what exactly happened he said it was either twins (explaining my high betas in the ER) or tissue fell in my uterus from the surgery. All I know for sure was of the baby that ruptured my right tube & it could have been prevented if my old drs office would have let me have an appt when I was having pain. Instead they told me they couldn't see me until 8-10 weeks so I went to the ER, had a methotrexate shot, & surgery all within 18 hours.
What practice did you deal with for your ectopic? I was curious if we went to the same place.