A little perspective

rlajambe

It's been a few weeks since our loss and words has gotten out that we lost the baby.  Last night I got a message from old friend that I haven't talked to in year.  He told me that his wife and he had been trying for 3 years and have suffered 5 miscarriages all at 8-10 weeks gestation.  They keep trying but no diagnosis to date.

It really got to me how hard that must be.  It made me think that my DH and I are really lucky.  Although we lost our Isabelle, at least we know what's wrong and our OB has a plan to deal with it.  Many people don't.

I have been here posting for about a week now and have noticed in the sigs of many of the women here that many have had multiple losses.  The experience with my friend made me want to reach out to those women with multiple losses (especially those with no diagnosis).  I can't truly imagine what it's like and I hope that you have a good outcome soon.

 

AngnShaun

A diagnosis is certainly comforting and hopefully treatable.  I truly do not wish this feeling on even my worst enemy.  I hope your friend is able to find sucess... {{hugs}}

DaisyZH

I am so sorry for your loss.  It's so sad to me that there is this much pain in the world, I hate that any of us have to be here or that miscarriages have to happen to anyone.  Thoughts and prayers for both you and your friend. 

rlajambe

jenek0213:

P.S. Has she done karotyping? A lot of OBs/REs seem to hold onto it as a last resort. It can be spendy... but its the only way we found out what was really going on.

They are undergoing some genetic testing right now (both of them), but did not ask what exactly. (Cost is not a concern, as we are in Canada)

LSzwaya

I am so sorry for your loss of your sweet baby girl. I too put in perspective after my first loss how hard it must be to deal with multiple losses. I am now that person with many losses. I also could not imagine such a loss that you suffered. ((hugs))