difference of opinions? how long til TTC again...

khays8785

I am trying to focus on the positive future, when we can TTC again after d&c at 11w (meas 8w) but I've read and heard and been told different answers...

I know it probably depends, for physical reasons, on how far long - the earlier it happened, the sooner you are physically ok to try again?

but I've been told 1-2 "normal" periods by my dr... I usually always erred on the side of caution... I just don't want to get impatient and start before it's physically safe again, and risk another mc... I think I read somewhere that 80% of pregnancies post mc end up perfectly healthy (which was a comforting number to read), but obviously a weak uterus could result from not waiting long enough...

Ladies - what were you all told for how long to wait before you'd be physically able to try again? (vs emotionally..)

Laurakat81

The general consensus will always be to follow your doctor's orders and not to listen to what anyone else was told to do. That being said my OB says 3 cycles and my RE says one cycle, so you can see there is a lot of varying opinions even among the doctors. If your doc says 1-2 cycles then definitely wait at least one.If it were me I'd plan on waiting one and if I felt emotionally ready after that and AF and my cycle appeared somewhat normal then I'd go ahead and try the following cycle.

There is also a clicky poll on the blog that answers this question.

iheartcoffee

My Dr told me I could start TTC ASAP after my surgery last jan, as long as I was emotionally ready. I was emotionally ready, but apparently I wasn't physically ready =( 

KikiCohen

I was told pre D&E that the OB would tell me at my follow-up in two weeks.  She said they usually recommend right away or waiting up to three cycles, but basically there's nothing scientifically behind either. 

For me, the only thing that's keeping me going is the thought of trying again.  If I could get pregnant tomorrow, I would. 

khays8785

Laurakat81:

The general consensus will always be to follow your doctor's orders and not to listen to what anyone else was told to do. That being said my OB says 3 cycles and my RE says one cycle, so you can see there is a lot of varying opinions even among the doctors. If your doc says 1-2 cycles then definitely wait at least one.If it were me I'd plan on waiting one and if I felt emotionally ready after that and AF and my cycle appeared somewhat normal then I'd go ahead and try the following cycle.

There is also a clicky poll on the blog that answers this question.

This is what had me confused... thanks for all the answers though!

katharine25

My doctor told me we could try right away after a d&e @ +12w (gestation too) and we waited until AF showed up first through the first. The next cycle was a bust because of a crazy cycle and super delayed O. Third cycle was a BFP, but my chart shows me now hat my hormones were a mess. I'm not sure if that's what caused my 2nd loss or not - but it seems plausible my body just wasn't ready at the time. 

Definetly listen to your doctor, but I would also highly recommend start charting as it will tell you how your body is adjust post loss more than anything. Some women go on to have successful Pg's right after loss, some women come right back here, some women never get to leave.  Arm yourself with as much information as possible as to what your body is doing. 

 I will also add - even though your not asking  - those first few weeks after the loss I was ok emotionally. The whole loss grief really hit me hard 2 months out. Give yourself time to built up your emotional strength - PgAL is super hard, it's even harder when you haven't properly grieved what you've lost.

ljs4117

My OB told me to wait 2 cycles.  She said that technically I could get pregnant and possibly have a healthy pregnancy right away.. but that it's also possible that my uterus wouldn't be ready.  She said that when the uterus isn't ready there is a chance that implantation or placental development can be compromised, possibly leading to another (and avoidable!! EEK!!) loss. 

 

I'm sooooo impatient and have already played with the idea of TTC after just one cycle, but DH and I have ultimately decided that we want the peace of mind that comes with knowing we did everything in our power to ensure a healthy pregnancy.  My cycles are SOOO long though so I'm looking at 3-4 months possibly!!  ((

I have also heard of many people having healthy pregnancies much sooner, but personally I'm just not willing to take the risk (even if it is tiny)..

Either way you decide, good luck to you!!!  

rlajambe

Personally, my OB told us that we should wait 3 months (basically 2 cycles) before we should physically try again.  My uterus needs time to rest (I have an incompotent cervix) before we put strin on it again. 

I think a dcotor's recommendation depends on how far along you were and what your diagnosis is (if you have one).  For that reason, listen to your doctor.  Theyu have your best interest in mind and are the only one that knows your case specifically.

I know it's hard waiting (I'm still waiting myself), but it's something that necessary to have a chance at a healthy baby.  Try to focus on healing emotionally now.  Your chance to try again will come soon.

twotexans

My OB said 3 cycles.  My RE said after my first AF.  We went along with our RE's advice.  My hormones were still screwed up though, and I didn't ovulate.

khays8785

ljs4117:

My OB told me to wait 2 cycles.  She said that technically I could get pregnant and possibly have a healthy pregnancy right away.. but that it's also possible that my uterus wouldn't be ready.  She said that when the uterus isn't ready there is a chance that implantation or placental development can be compromised, possibly leading to another (and avoidable!! EEK!!) loss. 

 

I'm sooooo impatient and have already played with the idea of TTC after just one cycle, but DH and I have ultimately decided that we want the peace of mind that comes with knowing we did everything in our power to ensure a healthy pregnancy.  My cycles are SOOO long though so I'm looking at 3-4 months possibly!!  ((

I have also heard of many people having healthy pregnancies much sooner, but personally I'm just not willing to take the risk (even if it is tiny)..

Either way you decide, good luck to you!!!  

I'm with you on being impatient... and if there's anything I could do to prevent a future loss, I'm alll for it.   I'll just have to remind myself that waiting one more month in a grand scheme of life is nothing... thanks, and GL too! hope your cycles go quick!

 

katharine25:

Definetly listen to your doctor, but I would also highly recommend start charting as it will tell you how your body is adjust post loss more than anything. Some women go on to have successful Pg's right after loss, some women come right back here, some women never get to leave.  Arm yourself with as much information as possible as to what your body is doing. 

 I will also add - even though your not asking  - those first few weeks after the loss I was ok emotionally. The whole loss grief really hit me hard 2 months out. Give yourself time to built up your emotional strength - PgAL is super hard, it's even harder when you haven't properly grieved what you've lost.

I charted before, and I'm definitely going to chart again, if I can ever get back into the habit of temping before getting out of bed... 3 mornings in a row now I've remembered once I'm out of bed and washing my face. *sigh*

my sono tech at the last u/s told me she still carries around her 5 month mc, 20+  years later... I think, tentatively, that grieving has successfully occured, but I also know that I'll always carry this around - as I'm sure we all will

khays8785

*bump burp*