Sitting here in tears

bsn1752

I've lost all of my symptoms, I have no real growth, and all of my BMB girls are posting "bumps" and I have none.  I'm only 10w3d.  This is exactly when I lost all of my symptoms last time, and I just looked back at my calendar... we didn't discover the loss until 13w3d... but I'm convinced it's gone now.

I don't really know what I'm looking for here, but I just feel empty and like I want to throw up.

biochemgirl

I'm sure everything is fine.  I had days where I've had no symptoms and then the next day they come back full force.  FWIW, I didn't have a bump with my DD until 18 weeks and that was only if you saw me naked-it was not visible in clothes.

Petunia844

Call your doctor! Even if you have to pay it would be worth it to go in and get some peace of mind.  Big hugs.

littlemaybaby

{hug}

All I can say is that you aren't alone and so many of us here understand this.  Hang in there.   

Ladiebug710

Big hug.  Step away from the BMB, the girls are posting bloat pictures.  It is totally normal for symptoms to come and go.  Hang in there.

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((hugs)) My symptoms came and went right around that time, too, and they actually leveled off around 12 weeks. FWIW, I am very short, with a tiny torso, and I had NO bump at 10 weeks. That is totally normal! Don't judge yourself against the girls on your BMB, it will drive you crazy, hun.

If you are really worried, can you call your doctor and ask for a doppler check to ease your mind? 

adoxyinherear

Every single one of my symptoms disappeared at ten weeks! Overnight I felt totally fine, like I wasn't even pregnant. I didn't even have a bloat bump to show off! *hugs* I sincerely, sincerely hope everything is just fine.

lau1021

(((hugs))) I was just going to post how I am not feeling symptoms much either this week. I have been googling & from what I have read in some women symptoms start to fade weeks 10-12. I know it is hard not to compare but everyone is different, maybe give the Dr a call and they can set up an appt with you to check everything. Hang in there!

benoitfan

I am so sorry you are having a rough time.  I completely understand the worry.  I had a missed m/c at 11w, although the baby had passed at 7w.  I still had symptoms (in fact I didn't even get symptoms until after the baby passed).  Also, it is not abnormal for symptoms to take a hike at this point. 

Symptoms are not a sign of a healthy pg, just as lack of symptoms are not.  With DS I had no symptoms at all in first tri other than missed periods.  I didn't really gain any weight til the 1/2 way point and had no bump til at least 16w.  10w is a little early to be expecting a bump.  I'm 12.5w and barely have anything noticeable.  I'm still wearing my regular clothes, without even a belly band most days.

I know it's hard, but try not to worry.  Can you call your doc to see if you can get in for a quick doppler check or u/s?  I know that often at 10w they can't find a hb with a doppler, but my doc was able to find this los hb with her doppler at 10w.  If you can't get to the doc, can you call a private clinic and get one of their quick u/s for $40.  Might give you peace of mind.

Hang in there. T&P and ((HUGS)) for you.

roxyttandme

Your fears are totally normal. There has been many of days that I have felt nothing. It is totally normal. 

(((hugs))) 

liesam

Ladiebug710:

Big hug.  Step away from the BMB, the girls are posting bloat pictures.  It is totally normal for symptoms to come and go.  Hang in there.

This exactly! I'm sorry you're feeling so scared. I didn't have a bump until at least 18w and even then it was small. If you're feeling really worried, call your Dr and see if they can get you in for a doppler check. 

tetiananina

Call your Dr and see if you can go in for a u/s to give you some sanity. I'm sorry your feeling this way but sometimes not having symptoms isnt bad. I'm hit and miss. It varies on the day. I hadnt thrown up in a few days then back this morning I did. I'm exactly where you are and I have a tummy that looks "fat" not a bump. Everyone is different. 

I hope you get to see your Lo and feel much better! ((hugs))  

lizmitchell15

I haven't had symptoms for a couple weeks now either. I had an u/s last week and LO was just fine. So, try not to panick and call your doctor and see if they can squeeze you in for some mind easing!

Allycat11

((hugs)) I hope everything is fine.  Definitely try to see if your Dr. can get you in to ease your worries. 

melaniejt

Hey there, 

I totally understand how you feel. Could you call your doctor and maybe they could get you in for a u/s?

I don't know if you can do this, but I bought a doppler and it really helps keep my mind at ease! Either way, I'm sure everything is fine  

hrgunasekera1

I don't have any advice to give...just wanted to offer some ((hugs))

Mrs Carbo

I'm so sorry that you are feeling stressed. I know that it's so hard not to stress over symptoms or lack there of. I just try to remind myself that it is normal for symptoms come and go. If you are really worried, I wouldn't hesitate to call the Dr. to see if you can go in for an U/S for some peace of mind.

ReeceFamily

I think the tough thing about going by symptoms is that everything is potentially totally normal.  Or not normal, depending.  So you will drive yourself crazy/to tears thinking about it.  There really is no answer.  For me, loss of symptoms was not a good sign.  BUT the great majority of women in my BMB who lost symptoms went on to full term pregnancies.

As for the bump, a woman in my office is almost 6 months along and just now showing!

I know how hard it is, believe me.  I'm having my own little freakout this week about loss of symptoms.  Big hugs to you.  And like the other ladies said, call your doctor for a little peace of mind!

KJohnson826

(((hugs))) I had days without symptoms too, if you are concerned I would call your doctor. I'm sorry hun, I know being PgAL is so hard. 

bsn1752

Thanks everyone... DH is trying get me to leave work and go up to my doctors office.  I bought a doppler and it will be waiting for me at home when I get there, but I feel like it could be my best friend or worst enemy.  This is the most hopeless I've ever felt about pregnancy.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP

Call your Dr.  and see if you can come in to look for a HB (preferably with an u/s, as you are still early to hear on a doppler).  You have a history of loss, and you lost symptoms then, so I can't see why your Dr. would say no, and it certainly can't hurt to ask.

Also in the way of showing, you look to be a tiny little thing, so you probably won't show for quite some time, and most of the girls on  your BMB are probably showing you bloat.

StephRN23

Don't freak out, Hun! I'm sure everyone is fine. My symptoms were going around week 10. One of my friends, who is tiny like you, literally popped out of nowhere around 19 weeks. When is your next appointment?

mundayem

Every pregnancy is different so try not to freak out. Its very normal for symptoms to come and go. I didn't have a bump until I was 13 or 14 weeks and I didn't look pg until I was in late 2nd tri, I just looked fat. Hang in there. And don't panic if you can't find the hb with the doppler. It can be really hit and miss at the stage you are at. Hugs. 

jobiann

Petunia844:

Call your doctor! Even if you have to pay it would be worth it to go in and get some peace of mind.  Big hugs.

This, it's impossible not to stress when you are PGAL. Sending you lots of prayers and hugs.

bsn1752

I know, this is LO #2 (I have a 5 yo DD), so I feel like I should be showing... you're SUPPOSED to show with your 2nd early.

My next appt is next Thursday.

rayofsunshine99

BSN!!  Hey lady!!  I've thought about you lately and wondered if you got your BFP when you started TTC again.  I stopped going to TTCAL because of the rampant error messages. But it is great to run in to you here - I'm just sorry to hear you're feeling sad and so worried!!

I agree with the others that 10w is very early to see a bump, and many of the women who have one at that point is more likely due to bloat than baby.  (not that there's anything wrong with bloat)

I think that is great that you got a doppler.  I had one when I was pregnant with DS (because I'd had a prior m/c) and it was my savior.  I would have been a wreck without it and never had to worry about lack of movements, symptoms etc once I had it. If you don't want to go to the doctor, could you at least go home and try your doppler, so that you're not in anguish for the rest of the day?

Also keep in mind that the timing is also likely to make you more nervous.  You will be in my prayers hun, please update us!!

amidkiff

((HUGS)) I agree with the other ladies, if you need to see if you can't get in to see your DR. Peace of mind is worth a million bucks! I hope everything is ok, and it is just the 2nd tri feel goods. 

KatieKim0815

BSN - I'm on your BMB and just wanted to let you know I'm feeling the exact same thing today. COMPLETE loss of symptoms and today....cramping. Imagine where my mind is going too. I can really understand. I'm also 10w3d. I'm here for you. I would call your clinic just because last time this happened to me they rushed me in for an u/s to make sure everything was okay. 

bsn1752

KatieKim0815:

BSN - I'm on your BMB and just wanted to let you know I'm feeling the exact same thing today. COMPLETE loss of symptoms and today....cramping. Imagine where my mind is going too. I can really understand. I'm also 10w3d. I'm here for you. I would call your clinic just because last time this happened to me they rushed me in for an u/s to make sure everything was okay. 

I just can't even go on there any more.  Aside from so much of the snark... I feel like an alien over there.  FX for you too... I hope everything turns out perfect for both of us.

8daysaweek

I'm so sorry BSN. Can you call your doctor and ask to be seen.

FWIW, I had the exact same fear and meltdown this week and everything was fine at my appointment today. 

You are in my thoughts.

Junebug060609

FWIW, with my sons pregnancy the minimal 1st Tri symptoms I had dropped off dramatically at 9 weeks and had vanished pretty much completely at 10 weeks.  I was nervous, too (especially since I'd not yet seen his hb), but he's fine...and waking up from his nap now.

I completely understand the worry, but please know that its pretty normal for symptoms to drop off around where you're at as the placenta takes over.

aussiedaze

You sound just like me yesterday.  I'm a little over 9 weeks and my symptoms are pretty much gone.  I convinced myself I was having a m/c so I called the dr. and told them that.  They let me come in for a quick ultrasound and I got to see the baby and hear the HB.  As far as the symptoms I was told to "be greatful!".  So that's what I'll do.

Also, I had "lost" my symptoms right before Mother's Day and was again, convinced things were bad.  Then I ended up throwing up in the restaurant bathroom at Mother's Day brunch.  So!  I'd hang in there, call your Dr. if you want an u/s for peace of mind.  My $30 copay was worth hearing that little heartbeat. 

abarber2012

I had the same thing! Loss of all symptoms around the same time. All is fine tho! Im now 17 weeks! And all will be fine with you as well! Its just very hard after having a loss to not worry. Call your doctor and see if you can get in early so they can check in on LO. Hang in there sweety!

mijakach

I haven't seen the "bump" thread on December, but no one should have a real bump yet. It's all just bloat.

If it makes you feel any better, I am also 10w3d. Up until today, I have had no symptoms besides just being tired sometimes and bloated. I've had 5 u/s so far (3 with a heartbeat) with the most recent being on Friday. Symptoms come and go, and some don't even get symptoms. Symptoms don't tell you how your baby is doing.

I know it's hard, but do your best to relax. FX that everything looks perfect at your next appointment!

bsn1752

mijakach:

I haven't seen the "bump" thread on December, but no one should have a real bump yet. It's all just bloat.

If it makes you feel any better, I am also 10w3d. Up until today, I have had no symptoms besides just being tired sometimes and bloated. I've had 5 u/s so far (3 with a heartbeat) with the most recent being on Friday. Symptoms come and go, and some don't even get symptoms. Symptoms don't tell you how your baby is doing.

I know it's hard, but do your best to relax. FX that everything looks perfect at your next appointment!

I meant to say that it's on the FB page.  There's a girl that is 10w along and is tiny tiny... and VERY visably pregnant.  It literally crushed my heart.

jenada2011

Petunia844:

Call your doctor! Even if you have to pay it would be worth it to go in and get some peace of mind.  Big hugs.

This. Big big hugs!

PittPurple

Hi Bsn,

My symptoms are all over the place and it's driving me slowly insane. I would pay crazy amounts of money to buy an ultrasound that I could just watch all day, I'm starting to drive myself crazy. I ordered a doppler that has now been lost in the mail which is also driving me slowly insane.

This really isn't helpful at all. I do agree with you on our BMB, I find it pretty hard to take most days and am definitely more of a lurker, it's really rare that I post. I think I'm just going to start hanging out here instead.

I hope you get your doppler or get in to see your doctor soon and get some reassurance.

(((hugs)))

ateach

I'm on your BMB and I think it is hard to be there after a loss. Or probably any board full of people who have never had one, really. I have been feeling the same way as you and just don't really feel pregnant. I am trying not to focus on it as much as I can (which is practically impossible) and remember that I can't really change anything. I just keep praying and hoping the 2+ weeks until my next appointment go quickly.

MrsLele

I'm on your BMB, I'm about a week ahead of you, and I don't have a bump! Please don't be sad!! I hope you feel better soon, ((((hugs)))

mijakach

bsn1752:

I meant to say that it's on the FB page.  There's a girl that is 10w along and is tiny tiny... and VERY visably pregnant.  It literally crushed my heart.

Girl, I don't know how you do it! I get annoyed enough by some of the girls on TB. I can't imagine how bad the FB group must be.

orangegoggles

(((Hugs))) I know its hard. I had a meltdown last week. I have very few symptoms and then my boobs stopped being sore (my one and only consistent symptom) and I freaked. Everyone says weeks 8-9 can be rough, but I've had things easy. I have come to the conclusion that there will be plenty of time to worry and grieve if I do in fact lose my baby but right now I am pregnant and happy. Definitely call your doctor for an appt. I have one on  Friday and they were more than happy to give my another u/s to check on things.  FWIW, several women lose their symptoms around 10 weeks as the placenta begins to take over. Hang in there hun, its a long journey but you will get through it.