Which transition was more difficult?

beeunit

Going from no babies to 1, or from 1 to 2?

Damiensmommy45

Going from 0 to 1 for me . Only because I was so unsure of everything with my son. Now that I have my little girl, Im much more confident in myself as a mother. That being said , it's still a very close call. Having 2 crying babies that need butts changed and constant attention is NOT easy by any means either. Just waiting until Reagan is big enough to play with her big brother . (they are 5 days shy of being exactly 1 year apart) She is almost 2 months old now , so its just giving both babies the attention they need.

kagl08

Going from 0-1 for me and that is even with the issues we had with #2. He was early, spent 11 days in the NICU and has major issues. I absolutely think going from 1-2 was so easy and flawless. Of course we had issues but it was a ton easier than 0-1.

CaitlinJ22

Mentally and emotionally it was harder to go from 0-1. 

Logistically and physically harder from 1-2...more exhausting, but at least I knew what I was doing  

beeunit

Thanks girls!

dmfan897

0 to 1 for sure

biblionerd

For me, 1 to 2. At the time 0 to 1 was very hard on me emotionally, but having 2u1 was much harder than I imagined. DS isn't walking yet and is just very needy. DD is a horrible napper so it's just exhausting.

kcisthebombdotcom

0 to 1 by far.

Daisy22

1 to 2 for me. It's was way more exhausting having a 15 month old and a newborn at home. I was pretty relaxed with just ds1 and didn't have a hard time with the transition at all. But through a 2nd in so close in age was a lot for me. It took about 5-6 months before I felt like I was coming out of the fog of having them so close.

CBBB2010

CaitlinJ22:

Mentally and emotionally it was harder to go from 0-1. 

Logistically and physically harder from 1-2...more exhausting, but at least I knew what I was doing  

 This exactly.

juliane2004

0-1 for sure! I feel like I figured it out with DD, so when DS was here, it was easier. 

queenie521

0-1 definitly.......im afraid of what the 2-3 is going to be like

 

etude de la vie

Daisy22:

1 to 2 for me. It's was way more exhausting having a 15 month old and a newborn at home. I was pretty relaxed with just ds1 and didn't have a hard time with the transition at all. But through a 2nd in so close in age was a lot for me. It took about 5-6 months before I felt like I was coming out of the fog of having them so close.

This exactly!!  

jellybeanjean

CBBB2010:

CaitlinJ22:

Mentally and emotionally it was harder to go from 0-1. 

Logistically and physically harder from 1-2...more exhausting, but at least I knew what I was doing  

 This exactly.

Another vote for this.  1-2 was a breeze overall compared to 0-1 for me, but going out of the house with two took some getting used to.  I also think I "psyched" myself up more for the transition from 1-2 because the transition from 0-1 was a lot harder than I anticipated.

JenniferL923

1 to 2 hands down. 

 DD must have been the world's easiest baby. Alone, DS probably wouldn't be so bad, but he's a tad demanding and we are still working on sttn. It's just exponentially harder with a toddler in the mix. 

 We are just now coming out of the fog and I'm hitting my groove. With DD we were in an awesome groove at three months.  

RA1109

0 to 1.  No question.

Then again, my 2nd baby has got to be the world's easiest baby.  He never fusses, I can't even think of one fit he's ever thrown.  He's always happy and content, eats and sleeps great, just a go with the flow kind of guy.  It's like not even having a baby, it's like carrying around a sack of potatoes.  Everywhere I go people marvel at how easy and content he is.  DS1 absolutely adores DS2, has never shown any jealousy and thinks his little brother is the best thing ever.  But mostly, I think that I've just been SO much more chilled out this time around.  The first time around you overanalyze everything, spend way too much time and effort on things that don't matter.  And 2nd kids have to learn that the attention isn't always on them, and they adjust.

0 to 1 was a huge shock for me.  1 to 2 was just about no change at all.

I do think that it's such a unique situation for everyone.  All kids are different...if my 2 year old was throwing tantrums constantly and my 2nd baby had colic, it would be a nightmare.  There's also a HUGE difference between a 15 month age gap and a 24 month age gap.  Throw health issues, changing job responsibilities, DHs time and ability to help, etc. into the mix and it's all very individual.

moonfaerie

None to one for me, for sure. I had a  very hard time giving up control of my life and having to live according to a stricter schedule. By the time #2 came along, I was already resigned to my life not being my own and things fell into place much more easily.

hurricanelydiaa

No babies to one, by far. I had NO idea what to expect when #1 was born. I of course had people telling me throughout my entire pregnancy "get ready for no sleep" etc etc and I thought, it can't be THAT hard. It was that hard.

When I got pregnant with #2, I immediately started bracing myself for how difficult it would be, considering that I would have 2u2. And then when he arrived, he just kind of fit into our life! So far it has not been nearly as difficult as I was expecting. I think that not only did it help knowing what I was doing this time around, but also still being in "baby mode" has been a huge part of it. I think I would have had a harder time with a bigger age gap, so I'm glad we didn't wait longer to try for #2 :-)

lindsay.lou

Thank you all for this post, it's been very encouraging to read.

 

Summer20

CaitlinJ22:

Mentally and emotionally it was harder to go from 0-1. 

Logistically and physically harder from 1-2...more exhausting, but at least I knew what I was doing