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TTC After a Loss
Introduction
Hi everyone,
My husband and I have been trying to conceive since last May (2011) and have had two chemical pregnancies and a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks. The last pregnancy was sent for karyotyping and found to have triploidy. I have been told over and over by my reproductive endocrinologist that I'm probably just really unlucky but its hard to believe. Additionally, I am a nurse in a NICU and regularly come across women with obstetrical histories that resemble my own, but end with scary consequences. Babies born at 23 weeks gestation. Babies born with trisomy 13, 18, or Turner syndrome, etc. Its becoming very overwhelming. Meanwhile, we have been given the green light to try again this month. Its exciting, but more than anything its really scary. I don't know how to cope with my fears of repeating the past or how to enjoy the process like I should. I worry that maybe I am being naive in thinking that this next pregnancy will be okay. Maybe there is something really, really wrong. Anyway, I just wanted to vent and see if anyone feels the same and how they cope. Thanks for the support.
June 2011 - chemical pregnancy
September 2011 - chemical pregnancy
March 2012 - miscarriage at 12 weeks
firsttherain.blogspot.com
June 2011 - chemical pregnancy
September 2011 - chemical pregnancy
March 2012 - miscarriage at 12 wks
firsttherain.blogspot.com
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Re: Introduction
Just wanted to say Welcome! I'm sorry for your losses.
I think we all feel the same to a certain extent. This process is so scary and there are no guarantees for any us. Its overwhelming. For me, this board is a big support and I hope you find it to be the same!
[spoiler] My Blog: Grow Baby Grow
BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010
BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.
JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.
TTC #3: Since October 2017. BFP #6 July 2, 2018 EDD: March 16, 2019 [/spoiler]
I've only had the 1 mc at 11w (meas 8w) but I'm afraid to believe that future pregnancies could be ok - I think I've turned into a glass half-empty kinda gal with this TTC thing... and tell myself, expect the worst and you can only be pleasantly surprised...
to cope for now, i've decided to make a bucket list of things to do before kids and i'm gonna work on it while TTA - keeps me and my mind busy!
so- i'm so sorry for your loss, but welcome and I know there's alot of support here to be had...
Marriage: 10/02/2010
BFP#1 : 03.2012........MMC + D&C : 05.2012
The Buggy List blog
I'm sorry for your losses. I hope that your doctors are able to give you some answers and a plan to move forward. Make them take the time to answer all your questions and make sure you really understand what's going on. That's their job!
Welcome.
BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
January PAL Siggy Challenge: Good Advice
BFP 4/18/12, M/C 4/27/12 at 6w6d
BFP 7/1/12 - Counting down to our little girl, EDD 3/8/13
I am so sorry for your losses, but welcome to the board. It is very scary to TTC after a loss. And with your occupation and knowledge base, I can bet that it is even scarier. I don't really have any words of wisdom, because I am really scared, too, but I have found a lot of comfort in this board and the strong ladies here. If you need support- or even a distraction- we are here for you.
BFP#1 11/12/11 ~ No heartbeat 12/12/11 ~ D&C 12/19/11
BFP#2 3/25/12 ~ Heartbeat 141 4/16/12 ~ No heartbeat 4/25/12 ~ D&C 04/30/12
BFP#3 7/16/12 ~ EDD 3/26/13 ~ It's a BOY ~ DOB 2/26/13
BFP #2: 8/31/12 EDD: 5/18/13 Chemical pregnancy: 9/4/12
BFP #3: 5/17/13 EDD: 1/24/14 Loss at 5 weeks: 5/29/13
Lots of testing, all clear with the exception of compound heterozygous for the MTHFR mutation.
Cycle 1: Femara, trigger shot, Bravelle added due to slow response = BFN
Cycle 2: Cancelled due to two cysts =(
Cycle 3: Femara, Bravelle, trigger shot and IUI = BFP then loss #3
Cycle 4: Femara, Follistim, trigger shot and IUI = BFP! EDD: 6/7/14
PGAL/PAL welcome
Hi and welcome. I've only been here a few weeks, and while it sucks that you ended up here - I really feel like the support system here is the best!
I can totally see how your line of work and the things you are seeing can have an impact and mess with your head. I don't know what to tell you, but my thoughts are with you!
***BFP 1-22-13, baby boy dx with Trisomy 13 at 15 weeks.
We let him go to Heaven on 4-27-13 at 17 weeks 1 day***
Couldn't have said it better. Welcome, OP, and ((hugs)) to you!
BFP #2 - 7/1/12 - Met my lucky charm Alexandra on 3-16-13!!!