September 2012 Moms

Am I overreacting?

Ok, so my grandma's funeral was tonight and MIL watched the kids.  When we went to pick up the kids, I brought our maternity pics and DD's 3 year pics that I picked up today.  MIL looked at them and said "Oh, that one looks creepy" referring to the one where I had an ultrasound pic on my belly and DH's hands in a heart around it.  And says the ultrasound just looks like an alien and creeps her out!  Then looked at DD's pics...said nothing and proceeded to ask where DS's pics are.  Um, hello!  He's in school...he gets school pics.  Am I overreacting?  I just find it upsetting.
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Re: Am I overreacting?

  • Her comment was definitely unnecessary, but I know a few people that think u/s pics are just creepy. Sometimes I even do! I'd never say what your MIL said though. I'd be annoyed, but prb just chalk it up to her not knowing when to be quiet. It's not worth your time and energy to get upset over that. Hopefully she isnt like that all the time! 

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  • It probably isn't worth spending too much energy on. It wasn't the nicest thing, but far from the rudest it could have been. Besides, your emotions were probably pretty high from the funeral. I'm very sorry about your loss. Big virtual hug!
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  • Maternity pics aren't for everyone.  I for example probably won't get them done because although I love my changing body and my baby inside but it's just not my thing.  Maybe your MIL is the same way.  However, she totally shouldn't have said anything.  I love looking at other womens' maternity pics.  I would just blow it off as being rude.  If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything!
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    Eh, some people find u/s pictures creepy - I can respect that.  I try to remind myself that my hormones, like it or not, are in overdrive when I'm pregnant & I know I take things much more personal than I usually do. 

    I'd let it go and spend your time & energy on other things.  

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  • My mom always tells me that LO looks like an alien when I show her the u/s pictures. I can't argue though cause they certainly don't look like a cute squishy baby! But it's my baby and I love them!

    And your MIL probably didn't even think about your DS getting school pics. I probably wouldn't think of that unless I had a school-aged kid.

    I also agree with a PP that your emotions were probably in a delicate state given you just came from the funeral.

    I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my Poppy when I was 6 months pg with DS1 and it was not an easy thing to go through. 

  • I find pictures like that creepy, too.  Honestly, if I had a picture like that and someone gave me feedback, I'd probably be grateful.  Most people won't share their opinions with you, but that doesn't mean they aren't thinking it. For me, it'd make me realize that maybe that's one that shouldn't be shared with everyone.  Sorry, just what I think. 

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  • It's probably a generation thing.  Older people probably never got ultrasound pictures or even maternity ones, so of course they aren't going to find them as heart felt as most women.  I might be looking at this a little differently, but you know, after just getting out of a funeral, you would think she'd be more in tuned to how sad you guys might be...and maybe be a little nicer? 
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  • I agree with others, some people just think ultrasound pics are creepy. I, for one, think most maternity pics are creepy (maybe a UO for tomorrow??), though I would never say anything about it. Was it the most appropriate comment? No. But, definitely not something for you to get all worked up over.

    I'm not trying to dismiss your feelings, but so often I read these posts about in-laws and think some people are just looking for drama in their lives. I'm not saying you should let your in-laws walk all over you, but choose your battles. Spend a day with my MIL, and I promise you'll be grateful that this is all you have to complain about.

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