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How do you deal with pregnancy announcements?

sarahtoledosarahtoledo member
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I thought, being so old (it's my 38th birthday in 11 minutes), I wouldn't run into this so often, but I kind of got two in one night and it feels like a ton of bricks fell on me.  

I know someone else's good news and happiness doesn't take anything away from me, and I am happy for my friends.  I just feel so... punished and broken.  

I think it will help when this ill-fated pregnancy is finally, officially over.  But it never gets easier, does it? 

My feet and Miss Heidi the rescue mutt!

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Moving forward with domestic infant adoption!

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Re: How do you deal with pregnancy announcements?

  • vanessagorcvanessagorc member

    For facebook, I just blocked pretty much every pregnant person. I still dont understand documenting every second of pregnancy online.  Nobody cares!!!  

    Birth announcements, I used to throw them out.  I know it wasnt mature, but f it....sometimes u have to go w ur gut. I knew it was bad, when I would get a birth announcement when I never knew my friend was pregnant. 

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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    It really depends on the day. Sometimes I just want to crawl under the covers and others I can handle it better. A co worker came in to tell me she is ku'd with her 2nd(she is 41) and she hated telling me since she knew I couldn't. I was ok with hers. But I decline baby shower invites and I avoid my neighbors that are PG or just had a baby like 6 wks ago. I don't comment on people's FB accounts and I am thinking about blocking those that insist on the daily baby pictures.. But I do worry that I will always be mad and sad when I hear an announcement for the rest of time. Hugs.

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  • arbutusbridearbutusbride member

    I don't comment on baby or u/s posts. I don't want the notifications all day that remind me of what I don't have. 

    Every time I see an announcement, I want to cry a little.  DH doesn't understand how hard it is for me and why I get upset about it.   

    Pursing Domestic Infant Adoption through a local agency. In the meantime, our dog is our baby.  Bumping from Portland, Oregon. 
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