New to TTC

Crayola

My husband and I got married last October and I am so excited to have a baby.  He is almost 39 and I am almost 36 so I feel the time needs to be soon.  I am feeling a lot of stress ttc.  We just started to try in April, so far no luck.  I am already getting discouraged even though I know I shouldn't be.  I think my heart wants it to happen so bad.  Any suggestions of how to stop thinking about it so much and just have fun ttc?  They say blessings happen when you least expect them.  Anyone experience that?

Tigger & pooh

All the girls here are so knowledgeable you will find this board to be a great resource.  As I was told when I first started posting check out fertility friend.com and read taking charge of your fertility.  They really help you understand your cycle and will help ease your mind.  Welcome to the board!

Country Girl in the City

Welcome to the board.  TTC is stressful.  There is not a lot that can be done about it.  I find it easiest to be honest with people about what is going on in my life.  The support from my family and friends has been a blessing.  Since you are so new to trying, it may not be as appropriate to share.  However, it is still important to have someone other than DH to talk to about it.  This board is a great place to ask questions and get good information.

Good luck to you.

JennyP1

Welcome to the board. Don't be too hard on yourself or get too discouraged. You just started TTC. Like PP mentioned there are some great resources out there that can help with tracking your cycles (charting & temping) which will help you take some control over this TTC process.

Most of all, just relax and have fun with your DH...and if you have questions or need to vent you've come to the right place!! Good Luck!

lindaeverly

Welcome to the board!  As the previous posters have said Fertility Friend is a great site for learning how to chart.  The book Taking Charge of Your Fertility was one of the best investments that I made in the beginning.  It's amazing how exactly perfect things have to be to conceive!  My last little bit of advice is just try to slow down & breathe a little bit.  Every woman here can understand the burning desire to have a baby & we have all been in your shoes.  Some of us on this board have been at it a very long time, so you may be in for a long journey.  But I hope that you're not.

kat1221

I think the PP have said it all but I wanted to say welcome and good luck to you!

annalisel

Welcome. It's way to early for you to worry.

Were you on bcps before? I get some pleasure from feeling the rhythm of my natural cycle if you know what I mean.

I'd also suggest assuming it will happen and enjoying the anticipation. I remember when DH and I started TTC, we had so many happy conversations about baby names and all the fun things we'd do and share. It didn't happen for us, but I still think of those times fondly. I wouldn't have wanted to miss out on that by worrying prematurely.

Good luck! 

danieleandwayne

I agree with pps. I wanted to say welcome and I hope your stay here is a short one. 

I think for me, the biggest shock was that it didn't happen like it was supposed to-- for women in my family, we've all gotten pregnant on the first try or while on birth control, etc. Plus, I'm not used to having done everything right and still not been successful. That has been one of the hardest things for me to deal with, really. 

It's also why I haven't shared much with my friends and family-- my sister and aunt know a lot, a couple close friends, but mostly it's the women on this board who keep me positive, boost me up, and support me. They're my lifeline back to relative sanity from Crazy Town. 

 

MrsTRAV

Like everyone else I agree with them all.

Welcome and good look.