Am I crazy? (Link to post on mc/pl)

kelly321

Maybe I'm just emotional today, but am I the only one that finds this post wildly inappropriate for the mc/pl board and thinks the OP is an absolute jerk? It has 48 views but I'm the only response, and I'm honestly surprised no one else has jumped on her. But again, maybe I just need to back off and take a deep breath.

Btw, the content is sensitive - she talks about her sister having an abortion.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/ShowThread.aspx?PostID=66091541#66091541

ETA: Nevermind, she DD'd. Summary below.

AngnShaun

when i click the link it says forum not found.

BootsOrHearts

Bless you for replying. I read it but I didn't even know where to start so I just moved on.

BootsOrHearts

AngnShaun:

when i click the link it says forum not found.

She deleted it. Probably after seeing the OP's response, which I felt, though a bit harsh, was more or less right on. 

AngnShaun

BootsOrHearts:

AngnShaun:

when i click the link it says forum not found.

She deleted it. Probably after seeing the OP's response, which I felt, though a bit harsh, was more or less right on. 

 

i thought that might have been what happened.  But it said forum not found so i was confused for a sec.

kelly321

AngnShaun:

when i click the link it says post not found.

She just DD'd.

 

Abridged version (it was a wall of text):

OP's sister, 33 years old and not in a relationship, got pregnant. She had horrible m/s and complained about baby making her sick, but seemed to be happy about the pregnancy when she visited OP and their mom. She went back home, called OP a few days later and said she'd miscarried. OP was judging her because she seemed unemotional about it, trying to look at the bright side of things. OP claimed to have gone through a m/c herself and thought the reaction was judge-worthy and inappropriate.

OP's mom opened some account and found out that sister had gone to a clinic. OP called and asked if they did anything besides abortions, and the secretary said no. OP is devastated, mom is crying, OP can't believe her sister would do that, insert 15 judging comments here.

kelly321

BootsOrHearts:

AngnShaun:

when i click the link it says forum not found.

She deleted it. Probably after seeing the OP's response, which I felt, though a bit harsh, was more or less right on. 

It probably was. I'm usually not harsh at all, but for some reason that post really struck a nerve today. Maybe because I was rather unemotional and tried to "look on the bright side" about my miscarriage, and she implied that that is not an appropriate reaction and must mean that her sister (and hence all women who react that way) didn't want the baby.

keft514

yea, i feel it is amazingly inappropriate to post that.  i'm sure she was really really upset and posted it in a rage, but still!

klbowie

I completely agree with you.  I just read the post and when I hit reply she had DD'd it.  I have no idea what the heck she was thinking but I too was about to lay into her.  Really, how is this ok to post on that board?  I am glad she deleted and sorry I didn't get my chance to back you up on it.  Everything you said was right on!  It was not harsh at all. The was inappropriate and needed to be put in her place but apparently she was not ready for that!

BootsOrHearts

kelly321:

BootsOrHearts:

AngnShaun:

when i click the link it says forum not found.

She deleted it. Probably after seeing the OP's response, which I felt, though a bit harsh, was more or less right on. 

It probably was. I'm usually not harsh at all, but for some reason that post really struck a nerve today. Maybe because I was rather unemotional and tried to "look on the bright side" about my miscarriage, and she implied that that is not an appropriate reaction and must mean that her sister (and hence all women who react that way) didn't want the baby.

I don't fault you at all for this. You had the chutzpah to post a reply and I didn't. I can relate to being set off easily too. I told at least 2 doctors and 1 nurse at the hospital when I was there 2 weeks ago to go F themselves. I hope they understood I was coming from a place of pain and didn't hold it against me!

moosegal

I did manage to read it before the DD and also thought it was 110% inappropriate for the nature of the board. I didn't see your reply, but at least it made her DD so no one else had to see it.

mhubbar5

I read it this morning. I didn't even know where to begin with it, so i just left it alone. But I was like.."Seriously, WTF was that all about??"