10 dpo BFN - feeling really down and out :(

PandasMama0626

Hey there gals! This is the first month the hubby and I are actively trying for a 2nd baby. our first is 2 next month and we really want her to have a sibling somewhat close in age. As of right now I'm 10 dpo with AF not due for another 3-5 days (she fluctuates between 28 and 30 days, but is usually 30 more often then not). I thought I'd be safe testing this morning (I know I ovulated late in the afternoon, early evening on the 7th, not sure if it matters) and got one of those First Response tests (the ones that say you can test 6 days before your first missed period so I thought for sure it would work) and got a BFN

I have so many symptoms right now it isn't funny and to have that BFN staring at me like a big slap in the face just made my heart drop. I have slightly fuller and sore bbs (not sure near the arm like they were with my first pregnancy, but extremely sore nipples and behind the nipples), lots of EWCM that is heavily tinted yellow (I know for sure its not an infection of any kind. I got really excited when I saw this because the only other time its ever been that yellow was when I was preg with my first), very heavy feeling in the uterus with mild cramping and just feeling of being full/bloated or something. Kind of hard to explain. I feel like I have to pee more, I'm tired beyond belief, nauseous, lots of headaches over the last few days, and moody.

All this has been going on far too long for it to be AF related since I usually don't get crampy and all that until about 1 or 2 days before AF.

Am I down and out do you think? Its hard to relate this time around to my first pregnancy since I didn't test until the day AF was suppose to arrive and got a faint positive, the next day was when I got the blazing 2nd line. It took only 3 months of trying for her so I know I'm jumping the gun with being over obsessed thinking it could happen the first time around this time.

What do you all think? Was it still too soon to even get the faintest of lines on the FRER? Thanks for your input everyone!

megandchase

Sorry your bummed... Try again the day AF is due. GL  

jenaw84

The HPTs that say you can test 6 days before your missed period could cause you to test before you may want to.  My period was due Tuesday, but if I had tested 6 days before that I would have only been 7 DPO, no where near close to when I should be testing..hope that helps.

This is from the newbie link, maybe it's just too early for you to test.

HPT accuracy DPO
10 dpo : 35%
11 dpo : 51%
12 dpo : 62%
13 dpo : 68%
14 dpo : 74%
15 dpo : 80%
16 dpo : 88%
17 dpo : 92%
18 dpo : 99%

Beaglechon2012

Why don't you check out these links here and here.

PandasMama0626

Jenaw84, thank you so much for that! It makes me feel a bit better I always thought those "6 days sooner" tests have to be off somehow. At 6 days prior to AF, I was at 7-9 dpo, which is way soon. hence why I thouhgt 10dpo I could have got at least a faint pink line. Then I have heard that it sometimes takes up to 10-12dpo for implantation to even happen so then the test for sure wouldn't work right? its so frustrating not knowing and seeing SOOO many others who get BFP at 9 and 10 dpo ya know?

jenaw84

PandasMama0626:

its so frustrating not knowing and seeing SOOO many others who get BFP at 9 and 10 dpo ya know?

I agree that it can be frustrating not knowing, but I'm excited for others who get that BFP no matter what.  I think charting/temping helps in understanding exactly what your body is doing, how do you know how many DPO you are?

sueann911

This would be a great post for 2ww. Please check out the newbie link/FAQ.

I'm sorry you're bummed. Keep your chin up. Good luck.

PandasMama0626

I keep a really close eye on my CM. I don't do the temp charting only because I never get a legitimate temp in the mornings. I'm usually up and down all night and all morning every single day so Its tough to get that basal temp. I tried charting temp when we were TTC our daughter and it was still tough for me to get it nailed down. Observing my CM works great, plus I have a slightly painful ovulation when it happens. I can feel the cramp on one side or the other where the ovary is. It usually happens the day after the fertile CM appears. Right about 14-15 into my cycle.

BeagleBub

Please use paragraphs! Its much easier to read your post. 10 DPO is still pretty early, the chart PP posted above is a good reference. Good luck.

CiderWench

BeagleBub:

Please use paragraphs! Its much easier to read your post. 10 DPO is still pretty early, the chart PP posted above is a good reference. Good luck.

PandasMama0626

sorry about that guys. lol didn't mean for it to be a wall of text at all. I will try to separate it into paragraphs next time.

URMySunshine77

I feel your pain, as I am in the same situation right now.

 

Even when monitoring CM, it is not possible to pinpoint the O day without taking your temp. If temping is convenient in your lifestyle, I would recommend doing it to have more control.

 

Hope you get the BFP! 

PandasMama0626

I really had no idea... I've read about so many others who do the CM without temping. I think next month if it turns out I'm not preg this time around and AF rears her ugly head, I'm going to stock up on those ovulation strips on amazon. I did the CM thing with my first so I assumed maybe it would work again this time I feel silly right now...

Pinkjellybeans1983

Its only your first month trying so I wouldn't get to worried yet. 10 DPO is still pretty early. Read some of the links that others have provided to you and you will find some helpful tips.

Unless you temp you do not know when you ovulated. CM and O pain are not solid indicators of that. Many women have fertile cm throughout their cycle. Unless you take your temperature, you have no way of being 100% that you did indeed ovulate. 

A lot of your symptoms can be mistaken for PMS as well, so give it a few more days and take a test again. 

atelyce

As PP have said, 10 DPO is still a bit early to test. Test again when AF is due. Pregnancy symptoms are very similar to PMS symptoms; and your body becomes super aware of symptoms you may not have realized you were having before TTC.

GermanGirl2007

PandasMama0626:

I really had no idea... I've read about so many others who do the CM without temping. I think next month if it turns out I'm not preg this time around and AF rears her ugly head, I'm going to stock up on those ovulation strips on amazon. I did the CM thing with my first so I assumed maybe it would work again this time I feel silly right now...

Don't feel silly. There is a lot of info here, and not all of it will be familiar.

FWIW, the ovulation strips will also not tell you when you ovulate, only that you are gearing up to ovulate. They are great to use in conjunction with temping, because they let you know you are about to O, and temping confirms it.  I usually O about 1-2 days after my first OPK.  That said, I know that some people get positive OPK's throughout their cycle, so just don't rely too heavily on them. GL to you!

5dogs

If you read the FRER insert, it says it's only 50-60% accurate at testing 6 days out from your period. I'd wait it out.

PandasMama0626

I know, I feel silly testing so early and hoping for a double pink line. I thought for sure I was on the safe side with my period only 3-5 days away but nope. Then again, maybe it implanted late and there hasn't been enough time for there to be a good amount of HCG in my system... fingers crossed!