How does your husband react to your fertile window?

annalisel

Is he laid back? serious? Doesn't even notice?

Mine goes all serious. It kind of drives me crazy. He wants to know exactly what are the best days, how many times, etc? He can't accept that predicting ovulation is not an exact science. To complicate things, we have moderately severe MFI, so every day is not an option. I have to say unsatisfying things like "If I knew I'd ovulate on X day, then Y would be best, but since earlier is possible, Z may be better, but I won't know until it would be too late." This is, of course, very romantic.

danieleandwayne

That would drive me crazy, too.

MH would want to BD if he was in a coma, so he loves my fertile window because I'm more likely to acquiesce-- even if I only consent to a "quickie." I'm the one who pays attention to my fertile windows because these days, it's all I care about, it seems. 

10-4LilBuddy

Ugh.  Mine gets all serious too.  I tried to put the moves on him once a few days before expected ovulation and he worried that his boys would be depleted for the IUI.  Still got what I wanted but he was so concerned!!

MarylandWed

This is only our second cycle and our first really really trying so I will be curious to see how he reacts next time around. Considering we dtd five times this week which is a lot more than usual, I imagine he will run and hide next month.

MrsNukem

I think my DH gets a little stressed out with the extra pressure to "perform".  I try not to tell him when I'm about to ovulate, but usually this is the only time I initiate sex, so well, it's hard not to hide that it's BD time.

ksgsmu

I don't say a word... He has no clue when I am in my fertile window he would be too stressed!

BabyVDM

I think at my house it's me who has the problem! By the time our Window comes around I'm so tired of thinking about it and informing him of the timing and my temp and filling him in (just to keep him in the loop) that I completely shut down and DH is having to remind me what we are about.  Poor thing has to put up with the reminders and then has to remind me!  He only does that so we don't miss our shot because otherwise I'd be upset and more anxious next month!

 

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Maybe Joleisa

MrsNukem:

I think my DH gets a little stressed out with the extra pressure to "perform".  I try not to tell him when I'm about to ovulate, but usually this is the only time I initiate sex, so well, it's hard not to hide that it's BD time.

This about covers it for me, too.  

kat1221

ksgsmu:

I don't say a word... He has no clue when I am in my fertile window he would be too stressed!

 

I'm going to try this next cycle.  My DH gets super stressed about it and hasn't been able to finish a few times b/c of the anxiety:(

MrsNukem

kat1221:

ksgsmu:

I don't say a word... He has no clue when I am in my fertile window he would be too stressed!

 

I'm going to try this next cycle.  My DH gets super stressed about it and hasn't been able to finish a few times b/c of the anxiety:(

My DH has had the same problem   I can't help but feel frustrated but I feel bad knowing he feels guilty when it happens.

lovelyday39

kat1221:

ksgsmu:

I don't say a word... He has no clue when I am in my fertile window he would be too stressed!

 

I'm going to try this next cycle.  My DH gets super stressed about it and hasn't been able to finish a few times b/c of the anxiety:(

Same here Kat- I thought I was supplying a reasonable amt of info, but not inundating. After a convo last nite, I misjudged the level. So, currently trying to sensitively suss out the balance. I really feel bad for putting undue stress on DH.

dhreczuck

I have no idea how to handle it anymore, DH totally stresses himself out but he also needs to mentally prepare so I have to give him a heads up. Plus by now he's kind of figured out when I'm going to be ovulating on his own. Sometimes things work out fine, sometimes not so much. 

The worst is the IUI's because we're instructed to BD the night of the IUI and the next morning, at 45 DH doesn't quite have the stamina he used to have. He was pounding glasses of water last night, (he thought this would help, why I don't know) and we barely eeked it out and we both overslept this morning. Oh well whatcha gonna do?

kat1221

MrsNukem:

kat1221:

ksgsmu:

I don't say a word... He has no clue when I am in my fertile window he would be too stressed!

 

I'm going to try this next cycle.  My DH gets super stressed about it and hasn't been able to finish a few times b/c of the anxiety:(

My DH has had the same problem   I can't help but feel frustrated but I feel bad knowing he feels guilty when it happens.

 

Yep-I have gotten mad at him!  I feel so terrible afterwards and like a total *ss.  TTC makes me a crazy person sometimes.  It's just so hard b/c I know the "prefect" time to get it on and if he can't perform I get super upset.  It's all very dramatic and dumb.

Country Girl in the City

The romance went out the door once TTC was in full effect.  When it was actually relevant, he had my chart on his phone and he checked my fertility monitor to see when I was in my FW.  If I was home from work, he would come home at lunch to get a quickie in.  We had sex 1-3 times per day during that time.  Sometimes, I would tell him that once was more than enough but he wanted to be sure.  The when the FW was over, we would say, OK, lets skip tonight and watch TV in our jammies.  I hope to get the romance back some day.

Strunella

danieleandwayne:

MH would want to BD if he was in a coma, so he loves my fertile window because I'm more likely to acquiesce-- even if I only consent to a "quickie." I'm the one who pays attention to my fertile windows because these days, it's all I care about, it seems. 

This is pretty much us too.  I just tell him when it's "sex night" and it's magic to his ears.

mrsjami

Lovin this post!!! DH gets stressed, but we somehow work it out.  Cinemax is a big help;)