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smann657

This is my first post so bear with me.  

I am 36 and my DH is 43 and we've been married for 7 years. We are now ready to have a baby but of course like so many others we have a few obstacles to get through first. My DH has two kids 18 yr old DD & 22 yr old DS from a pervious marriage. Two years after his DD was born my DH got a vascetomy. We have found someone in our area that is highly recommened and will be getting his VR in either July or August.

I was hoping to get some advise from you guys. I always wanted to have kids but I wanted to adopt. When I meet my husband I knew of his V and that he didn't want anymore kids. I thought maybe down the road he would change his mind and we could adopt. Well, my husband told me years ago that he didn't want to adopt so I decided then that kids just weren't meant for us. At my last yearly exam I talked with my doctor and told her I thought I might want to get pregnant and have a baby. She informed me that I was getting old(I just turned 35) & if I wanted to really do it I better get started. I went home crying thinking that I was old as dirt and shouldn't have kids. My husband saw how upset I was and after months of talking we decided to go ahead and see what our options were. 

We started with IUI but found out they wouldn't be able to retrieve enough sperm. Then we talked about IVF but the cost is really high and for a one time short we decided not to go that route. She we have decided on a VR. 

Has anyone had success with a VR and how long did it take to get pregnant afterwards? How did DH feel after the VR? Is there anything we need to do before he goes in that would help? Is there anything I can do to help our chances? 

I really appreciate any advise I can get. I don't really have anyone to talk to besides my DH about whats going on.  

BabyVDM

You are probably going to hear this a lot, from the ladies on boards like this but you are not "old as dirt", nor are you too old to have children. 

Who knows you might not even have any issues at all.  Sounds like you haven't even been able to try things on your own naturally because of your DH's "intervention" in a previous life.  I wouldn't worry too much about any of this until after the VR and you go a few cycles without BFP. 

I don't know anything about VR but I do know that my cousin became pregnant several years after her husband had a V so there probably won't be anything you DH has to do but recover. 

Though, you should probably start charting just so you have a good idea about your cycles.

 Good Luck. 

 

 

JennyP1

I don't have any experience with VR so I can't offer much advice there, but I agree with PP that you are NOT "as old as dirt"!! And I wanted to welcome you to the board. This group is wonderful and full of great support and advice.

smann657

Thank you for responding BabyVDM. I'm starting to feel better about my age but every so often when people hear that I'm trying, the first questions is "how old are you?" and it makes me feel bad all over again. Normally I wouldn't care but people hear my age and start telling me of the things I'm at risk for. What happen to people just saying congratulations and moving on?

Last month was my first time using an OPT and on day 10 I got a postive that but when I tested the next couple of days it came back negative. I thought the OPT detected the LH two days before OV? When the LH is detected how much time do I have to do the BD? 

smann657

Thank you JennyP1. It's nice to be able to share our story and to be able read other stories and to know that I'm not alone in this. 

annalisel

Welcome! I have no experience with VR, but, uh, 35 is not old. If it weren't for your husband's vasectomy, most likely you'd be able to have a baby no problem.

Good luck with the VR! 

mtlaurel

Sorry, I don't have any experience with VR, but wanted to welcome you to the board.

BeckyP005

I wouldn't worry about your age...easier said then done I'm sure. I will be 44 in about a week! I wish you the best of luck

kat1221

Welcome and good luck!  You are a baby compared to a lot of ladies on here.  Hang in there!!

lindaeverly

I don't have any experience with VR, but I want to welcome you to the board!  35 is definitely not old!!!!

MarylandWed

I wish I was as old as dirt as you are (I'm 39). In other words it's all relative. Good luck with the VR. I agree start charting/monitoring your cycles as something you can do now that is helpful, while you wait. There is a whole college degree of stuff to learn just to get pregnant "the old fashioned way." GL!

smann657

Thank you all for welcoming me and your kind words, it means a lot to me. All my friends that do have kids got pregnant just by walking near their husbands. It was so easy for them, so it's hard to talk to them about what I'm feeling and going through. 

June 8th we go in to do blood work on my DH and schedule his VR appointment. It seems so close yet so far away.  

MrsTRAV

Don't have any advice on the VR, but good luck, and don't worry you're not old as dirt