Selfish Vent (long)

SoulChild

Hi Ladies;

Just need to vent for a moment.

So, I tried being nice and inviting MIL, FIL, SIL and her boyfriend over for an election watch party at our house.
So MIL says "OK. I'm gonna bring wings and it'll be FIL, SIL, SIL BF, then 4 extra people (these are SIL BF's 2 roommates and thier girlfriends)."

The reason I'm upset is that EVERY TIME we have some type of food related get together SIL has to bring her crew. Her crew sometimes consists of up to 6 extra people. So now I  seldom invite them over b/c of all those extra people.

Not that I'm cheap but food prices are through the roof and 4-6 extra people can hurt the budget.
This will be the same case for T-Giving.

I told DH about it and he asks...'why dont you just say something" so I said "I'll be better coming from you" Since it is his sister.

WWYD!? I'm starting to really HATE getting together with DH's family because of SIL's refugees.

Sorry for the selfish vent.

Pesky

ITA agree with you and it should come from your DH.  Otherwise it can make you out to be the bad guy.  Like for Thanksgiving, why doesn't he nip it in the bud by talking with his sister and saying hey, we're thinking just a family event this Thanksgiving so no posse.  And just up front asking her to ask you all if it's okay BEFORE inviting total strangers over to your home for anything.  It's ridiculous. 

katie277s

I think your DH should be the one telling her, not you.  And why is it necessary for your SIL to bring all those extra people to a family thing?  If all else fails, let them know they are welcome to come but need to bring a passing dish to contribute.