CPW for my own benefit...How do you break up with someone

Spruce14

My acupuncturist to be specific. I really like her and in the beginning I felt comfortable. Yesterday she said that I should be getting my period in a few days...i explained "no i ovulated late this cycle" she said "wow, thats weird" (ummm no it's not really weird) Then she asked me how many days i ovulated for. I said "what do you mean, one day, sunday" She said "ohhh" 

I wanted to leave right then and there but I didn't. I actually even scheduled an appointment for next week. I just found someone who specializes in fertility and talked to her on the phone and she definitely knows what she is talking about. She is a little more money but i think it would be worth it.

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shellyco

Do you have standing appointments, like, every Wednesday?  If you don't, just don't call to make another appointment.  If you do have standing appointments, I'd be honest but vague.  Say, "You are such a lovely woman, and I'm going to miss our time together, but I'm going to be taking a break from the accupuncture for a little while."

ETA: I am a wimp, but if you are up to it I'd take pp's advice and let her know that she does have more to learn about fertility.  Maybe suggest a good informational book to her?  Or even gift it to her! 

ct103

I have personal experience with this one. I broke up with my acupunturist for similar reasons; she just didn't "get it". But I didn't have to give her a reason. I just never went back.

If you feel you have to give her a reason, tell her that you feel like you need to pursue other options at the moment. I'm sure she won't ask you any more questions, and if she does, then that's even more reason to break up with her!

 Good luck and hopefully you find a better match!

bananers

MrsErinH:

I would be a little more gentle than "I don't think you know what you're talking about" but you should definitely tell her that you found someone who is more experienced in fertility.  It might help her realize that she has a lot to learn and that could make her a better professional later.  It might hurt her feelings at first but at least it would help her grow and it's the nicer thing to do in the long run.  If you lie it could be awkward if she finds out somehow that you are going to someone more expensive later.

All of this.

HopingforChange

ct103:

I have personal experience with this one. I broke up with my acupunturist for similar reasons; she just didn't "get it". But I didn't have to give her a reason. I just never went back.

If you feel you have to give her a reason, tell her that you feel like you need to pursue other options at the moment. I'm sure she won't ask you any more questions, and if she does, then that's even more reason to break up with her!

 Good luck and hopefully you find a better match!

This--totally.  Sometimes it just doesn't work out.  If she is a professional, she will graciously accept that.  I was very nervous because I sort of "broke up" with my OB, and I honestly don't think he batted an eye.

GatorBaby2012

If it were me, I'd just stop going without any further discussion.