Advice please!

laurenluor

I have done a lot of reading and research on NB for the last year or so and now my husband and I are expecting our first. I have decided on the Hypnobabies method and it's about time for me to sign up for the class. My husband will go with whatever I want, but he is also very skeptical of the whole thing and doesn't really want to participate. I know a lot about the method through my reading, but seem to have a hard time articulating anything to him and he hasn't shown any interest in wanting to read anything himself.

Any advice on how I can get him more informed and on board with this? I really feel his complete support is needed for me to be sucessful.

RockyMtnMama

The couples classes will probably be the best.  I think most hypno classes are 5 weeks, right?  Maybe take it early like around weeks 25-30 so you have time to practice and get ready. 

My DH was a little like, "whatever you want" for our first, but after taking the Bradley classes he was much more vested in the process and understood more about labor/delivery.  Guys are often visual learners, so being at class and seeing pictures/hearing from the instructor is probably going to be the best method to have him become more vested in the labor/delivery process.  Oh and at first he wasn't happy about 10+ classes for the Bradley, but I promised him dinner out after each one and it became a little date-night for us. 

sschwege

If you are taking the class together that should help.  My DH was kind of in the 'whatever you want' camp, but got more excited about it when we started taking the classes.  

I know this is a generalization, but I think it is not uncommon to find that the woman is more informed and better read on the topic.  I didn't expect that DH would read what I was reading or even really practice with me that often.  Before I went into labor I made DH a binder filled with different ideas, things he could say or do, etc.  He never actually had to reference it, but that was my way of ensuring that he at least he knew what he could do to support me.    

Bonidiebabe

I would have to say that I disaggree that you need his complete support for hypnobabies to work. Scroll back a page or two if you would like to read my birth story. I told DH of he didn't want to participate that was fine he just could not say anything negative about it. I think that doing it by yourself with the home course study is completely manageable and effective.