Kind of freaking out

red1976

DH & I wanted our LOs close in age and decided to start trying last month since it took 14 months to conceive DD. Well - to my shock we got a BFP last night on our first cycle. I feel completely overwhelmed. DD will be just 17 months. I don't know if it's the idea of having 2u2 that has me overwhelmed or just going through pregnancy again so quickly. And to be honest, I have this guilt feeling that I've just upheaved DDs life ... anyone else feel/felt like this?

 

akbride25

When I was pregnant with #2, I was excited but incredibly nervous. I didn't have a clue how I would handle two of them 18 months apart. I worried about the attention I'd be able to give DS when the baby came. Once she was here though, I realized how wonderful it was. DS was so excited about his sister, and now that they are older, they are the best of friends.

We ended up liking the spacing so much that we are doing 2u2 again!

CaitlinJ22

We got pg right away with DD too, and while it was welcomed I was shocked. 

They are 18 months apart and we love it, so much that we are having #3 soon.

Those initial weeks are hard, but you are giving your LO a great gift--a best friend.

I think the label of 2 u 2 makes it sound so scary...people have been doing this for years, we all have survived and so will you.

Congrats! 

rrcraz7

Aww congrats Red!!

Everything you are feeling is normal. I'm scared at how I will handle a newborn and a 19mo old. I worry about taking attention away from DD and not being able to devote as much time to the NB as I was for DD. People do this all the time though and raise happy well rounded children. It will all work out!

red1976

rrcraz7:

Aww congrats Red!!

Everything you are feeling is normal. I'm scared at how I will handle a newborn and a 19mo old. I worry about taking attention away from DD and not being able to devote as much time to the NB as I was for DD. People do this all the time though and raise happy well rounded children. It will all work out!

It's so nice to see you here! And to know people have the same worries. I'm sure my feelings will settle out ... I just found out last night so I'm still in the overwhelmed phase!! lol

karatechrissy

My children are 13 months apart. It has been one of the hardest things I've ever done getting through the past 10 months. But I have also been very rewarded by how well they play together and things are getting easier. Just take it day by day. Your dd will be young enough that she won't really be that affected by it. After a week or so my dd acted as if her brother had been there from day one. They adapt. 

drpayne

I could have written this... just got a BFP this morning (after deciding this weekend to start trying again, lol... guess we won't have to).  I am so excited but I am freaking out.  I don't know about you but I also work out of the home... so the cost of 2 in day care alone is scary.  Congrats!!!  I just keep telling myself people do it all of the time and manage

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

Why hello there

I think the guilt is pretty common - don't feel bad about it. Mine went away the second they placed DD2 in my arms

Quiverfull Momma

We're expecting #10 in December, and some of our kiddos have been close and some have been spaced apart.  The ones that are spaced (#3 and #4 are almost 3 years apart) had more issues because #3 knew what it was like to be the baby for that long and didn't want to share his spotlight!  Our closest in age were #6 and #7 (12 months apart) and they are two little peas in a pod, hold hands everywhere they go and finish each other's sentences:)  Most of ours are between 14 months and 18 months apart and they get along just fine.  #9 and #10 will be 16 months apart and I'm sure they'll do just great too:)  Good luck and congrats!!!