The doodoo is deep.

Huahine

Other than a hug and a happy mother's day when I got up for the 3am feeding, there has been no acknowledgement that this day is any different than any other.  I was so sad this morning that I cried.  I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to keep a smile plastered on my face for the dinner I made reservations for with my MIL tonight.  

michelle_1221

Hoping it has got better for you. Shame on your H.

kiwiadiremWed231308

Hope yours got better. I didn't even get a happy mother's day today. Finally got a card at 9pm but that's it. So disappointed.

michnthecity

I'm there with you.  My husband gave me a crappy card that says at the bottom that I am entitled to personal training sessions.  I am beside myself.  On what planet does he think that he did a good job here?  I will never forget how he ruined my first mother's day.  I spent all day running around visiting at 3 different places with the baby, he was exhausted and so was I.  Then I come home to this crap.  I hate my husband right now.

Huahine

I'm so sorry that you guys had crappy days too. 

I'm used to being the one that buys the gifts for both of our families for holidays and making all of the arrangements for special events.  He's dropped the ball on my birthday, Christmas, and Valentine's day so many times that I have come to expect it.  So in an effort not to be disappointed I mentioned to him a few weeks ago that I would like a new pair of earrings, since I can't really wear necklaces anymore due to little mister grabby hands.  I also handed him a card from a salon that was doing a mother's day facial/massage special.  So he had options.  He knew either would make me happy.  It isn't like he had to do a lot of thinking, just take the time to make the purchase.  The fact that he couldn't do that hurts so much. It tells me that he doesn't value my contribution around here. 

I've gone from sad to angry and back again.  The only analogy I can make is bonus season.  If I was an employee who had just busted my butt around the clock for 4 months and then been passed up for a bonus I would take it as a sign that I should go find a new job, because clearly I don't have a future with an organization that values me so little.   But I'm not an employee.  I love the guy and he loves me.  He is a great dad and partner.  So I'm not going anywhere.  But it is going to take me some time to get over this. 

I was so relieved when he left for work this morning.  I need some space. 

I hope everyone else had a great, great day.  

 

Laura62809

Not that I want anyone to be in the same position as me, but I am glad I'm not alone.  What the heck are they thinking?!?!?

I told my husband that I even got him a father's day card last year when I was pregnant appreciating him and all he said was "well, I wasn't even a father technically, so you didn't have to".  HELLO!! He said "I'll get what's coming to me" but I doubt it.  Thanks a lot husband.  It makes me not want to do anything for Father's day, but I will anyway... cuz I'm that kind of person.  Ugh.

bigbear

Laura62809:

Not that I want anyone to be in the same position as me, but I am glad I'm not alone.  What the heck are they thinking?!?!?

I told my husband that I even got him a father's day card last year when I was pregnant appreciating him and all he said was "well, I wasn't even a father technically, so you didn't have to".  HELLO!! He said "I'll get what's coming to me" but I doubt it.  Thanks a lot husband.  It makes me not want to do anything for Father's day, but I will anyway... cuz I'm that kind of person.  Ugh.

OMG, I just remembered, that yes I got my DH a father's day gift too!!! And he messed up my very first mother's day. I can't believe those guys are just not getting it..... I'm so sorry all of you had a crappy day, too