Oh I am so mad! [rant/vent] EDIT

ShelbehhRawrr

• thank god now i dont have to see you complain about being prego and having a daddy that doesn't give a *** about you or the baby

• have a nice life being a broke ass mom who cant support her baby"

  
  

  "

  thanks for bringing another life into the world to waste my tax dollars on" 
  
  
  Sometimes, I wish I could just. I don't know, Smack people for being so ignorant.
  
  
  Thank you all for being snarky. My siggy wasn't made by me. Regardless what does it even matter? I'm pretty sure I know how to spell. I just liked what it said.
  ANYWAY
  
  
  My half of the conversation? Went something like this.
  
  
  START OF CONVO
  Her
  you know ive said that you were too young to begin with when you first found out
  
  
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  Me

  • yes mam.

  • but i have owned up to my mistake and took responsibility.

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  Her

  • okay

  • that still doesn't mean i think 16 year olds should have babies

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  Me
  doesn't matter to me, in all honesty
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  Her

  • well thats cool

  • idc if it matters to yuou

  • mad people opinions don't matter

  • s

  • doesn't mean i cant voice it

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  Me

  • well there isnt a need to spam me.

  • thats just obnoxious.

    
    

    Then she came at me with those top remarks, and I blocked her.

morethancottoncandy

It would appear that part of your post is missing.  The part that explains WTH you are talking about.  

ETA: I don't know where you got the badge from, but it's misspelled (Mommy).   

Gismo123

morethancottoncandy:

It would appear that part of your post is missing.  The part that explains WTH you are talking about.  

ETA: I don't know where you got the badge from, but it's misspelled (Mommy).   

LoL I noticed that too....I guess that's the new "teenage" way to spell? lol

TheFutureMrsH2012

ShelbehhRawrr:

"

• thank god now i dont have to see you complain about being prego and having a daddy that doesn't give a *** about you or the baby

• have a nice life being a broke ass mom who cant support her baby"

  
  

  "

  thanks for bringing another life into the world to waste my tax dollars on" 
  
  
  Sometimes, I wish I could just. I don't know, Smack people for being so ignorant.

 

So mad that you forgot half of your post? I've read this three times, and I still don't get it... 

dragossoul84

Teen parenting is not ideal and I have read another of your posts were you talk about dating some one apart from the birth father who was into drugs. It doesnt sound like you are making the best decisions and your getting mad at some one for making negative assumptions of your life but you are advertising poor choices and then getting mad at some one commenting on it. I do work volunteer work with teen moms if you want some one to talk to, I was also in a very bad relationship with my first husband he was emotionally and physically abusive so I understand getting over and growing past that type of man. Otherwise my suggestion to you is step back take stock of your life and really look at each decision you're making.

morethancottoncandy

Your post still makes almost no sense.  Is this a friend or relative you were talking to on facebook or something?  I just don't get it.  Second, you have a badge proclaiming that you are a "proud teenage mommie" and its misspelled.  It's not a raving endorsement and its going to prevent people from taking you seriously. 

ShelbehhRawrr

I;m working on me, Dating is only stressful, and her and I don't need a man to help us at all. Everyday I grow up a little more and make better choices. 

ShelbehhRawrr

She was a random person who I thought I was friends with for almost 2 years, obviously not.

cwm11985

Janelle????? Is that you?! Where's Keifer? Is this your mom that is the "her" in your incredibly strange conversation? I always thought your mom was a bit of a raving lunatic...

 

But in all seriousness, what the hell is this? Are you on crack? 

jnjmommy0609

I had a REALLY hard time understanding this at first..it was a bit all over the place...but I got you now.

This is a time in your life where you need some very supportive people around you. Who ever this girl is..she is not one of them. I recommend checking out some mommy groups. 

ShelbehhRawrr

That hilarious. Never tried a drug in my entire life. 

Shut up, please? That was not needed. by any means. 

ShelbehhRawrr

jnjmommy0609:

I had a REALLY hard time understanding this at first..it was a bit all over the place...but I got you now.

This is a time in your life where you need some very supportive people around you. Who ever this girl is..she is not one of them. I recommend checking out some mommy groups. 

Thank you.  

ShelbehhRawrr

Ambsies:

ShelbehhRawrr:

• Thank you all for being snarky. My siggy wasn't made by me. Regardless what does it even matter? I'm pretty sure I know how to spell. I just liked what it said.
  ANYWAY
  
  
  My half of the conversation? Went something like this.
  
  

Honestly, this post still doesn't make much sense to me.  It just seems like a confusing high school text message.

That being said, I would just ignore her.  I can imagine that being a teenage mom isn't the most ideal situation, but I personally know some amazing women who were teenage moms.  Just try and get your priorities straight and don't dwell on unnecessary drama like the stuff you posted.

ETA:  And I completely agree with morethancottoncandy regarding your badge.

 

I didn't want to start drama, I just wanted to vent, that really pissed me off.  

ShelbehhRawrr

I meant both the post and the conversation.. i blocked her because it was un needed drama for me. 

LeahCK

ShelbehhRawrr:

I meant both the post and the conversation.. i blocked her because it was un needed drama for me. 

I agree that you don't need that kind of additional stress in your life at this time. I do however, recommend after you get through this time in your life to reflect on her comments. Some of the people in our lives that don't "feel" like or appear to be our friends at the time are actually the friends that are trying to be a voice of reason and are saying things that your other "friends" don't. Sometimes it's because the others don't care enough for you. I don't think that her comments came across supporting and could have been worded much better and less angry. But, I do think that she is trying to provoke you to think things through thoroughly and be more cautious about actions and ramifications. I don't always like what my BF has to say and her vice versa but I'd still sit in jail with her and do anything for her.

There are also ex-friends of mine that have reconnected with me because all of their "supportive" friends have vanished, moved away, didn't keep in touch and really didn't care all that much. They were just there for the party and fun. At the end of the day who will be there when the fun times are over or change.

Good Luck! If you were my close friend I would be angry too but try to be supportive of you still continuing on toward goals in your life and trying to set the best example for your children.

kjg5445

being a teen mom sucks and its nothing to be proud of. Its one thing to own up to your mistakes and make the best of it (whether that be growing up and raising your child 100% to the best of your ability and give up the things you want in life to do it, or whetehr that means placing baby up for adoption so another family can provide everything it needs)

I had my son at 17 and i would in no way wear a "im a proud teen mom" badge. im proud of how good of a mother i have been, but ive given up most things in my life so that he can have them. you dont need crappy people telling you that you cant do it. As long as you know you are ready and have the mental, physical and financial readiness to do it, thats all that matters. Be strong and good luck. This is probably only the begining of crappy remarks you will get through your life.

oohgrrl11

Be proud. Set goals for yourself and strive to be proud of the results. Maybe you are proud that you are taking care of your body and your baby. You could be proud that you chose to keep her rather than abort her. Or that you got yourself away from an unhealthy or abusive situation. Good for you.

I'm sure you are already aware that this is going to be no cake-walk. I am 34 and having a baby, now 2, is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I can't imagine doing it when I was half my own age now. I had a couple friends in high school who became mothers at 16 and 17. It was crazy hard. I just saw on FB that one of those babies turned 18 yesterday and it blew my mind.

There are always going to be people that don't approve and that is their right. I personally have a problem with caring too much others think. I am working on that. My standard response lately whether in my head or out loud is "Well, I won't be asking you to ______, so don't worry about it." My aunt and grandpa thought I was illegally parked. They would not let it go. I said "Well, I'm not going to ask you to pay my ticket so don't worry about it." My mom thought I was letting my son stay up too late even though he had a very late nap. "Don't worry about it. You have raised your kids, and now I'm raising mine." Who cares what this person thinks. Its on you, not her.

ShelbehhRawrr

oohgrrl11:

Be proud. Set goals for yourself and strive to be proud of the results. Maybe you are proud that you are taking care of your body and your baby. You could be proud that you chose to keep her rather than abort her. Or that you got yourself away from an unhealthy or abusive situation. Good for you.

I'm sure you are already aware that this is going to be no cake-walk. I am 34 and having a baby, now 2, is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I can't imagine doing it when I was half my own age now. I had a couple friends in high school who became mothers at 16 and 17. It was crazy hard. I just saw on FB that one of those babies turned 18 yesterday and it blew my mind.

There are always going to be people that don't approve and that is their right. I personally have a problem with caring too much others think. I am working on that. My standard response lately whether in my head or out loud is "Well, I won't be asking you to ______, so don't worry about it." My aunt and grandpa thought I was illegally parked. They would not let it go. I said "Well, I'm not going to ask you to pay my ticket so don't worry about it." My mom thought I was letting my son stay up too late even though he had a very late nap. "Don't worry about it. You have raised your kids, and now I'm raising mine." Who cares what this person thinks. Its on you, not her.

 

This, I am proud of not taking the easy way out and giving my baby to god as a way to live my own life. I'm proud of myself for the decisions I have already made for my baby. And anyone who doesn't understand that... they just wont understand me.