Anyone Change to Public Transitions?

Schrodinger

DH and I have always worried that BM would finally lose it, and it looks like that time might be here.  DH is in law enforcement and over the last few days BM has filed multiple claims that he has been using official vehicles to harass and spy on her.  There is ample evidence that these are false claims (vehicles were not signed out that day, DH not in the office, etc.), so we're not worried about any legal ramifications.

 

What we are worried about is how to protect ourselves if she is going to be filing false charges against us.  Right now our transitions are done on Sunday nights and the NCP comes to the CP's house.  Should we start doing these in public?  Do we need to file an emergency CO to make the change happen?  My other thought is that the CP could drop SD's off at school on Monday morning, and the NCP could pick them up Monday afternoon.  Thoughts on that plan?  Videotape transitions if they continue to be done at home?

 

We are notifying the Parenting Coordinator of our concerns, but she usually takes a few days to respond.  BM has a long history of lying, including to the PC, so we are sure the PC will take our concerns seriously but we're not sure if she will be able to do anything.

kasper923

DH had it CO'd to do public transfers.  They meet at Walmart.

Jessys_Girl

I like the suggestion OP made that you might do one parent drops child off at school on Monday and the other picks her up, because then you'd never have to see one another.  The only thing is that would change the visitation time (but it sounds like you guys have 50/50 so it would change the times on both sides, so it would even out I guess). I'd say, if you do this route, make sure there's a folder or back pack or notebook or something that you give to the teacher that the teacher then gives to the parent picking up, and this folder or notebook can be a place where you keep any papers/notes/communications that need to be passed back and forth.