FFFC- can I start this please?

SmittyPants

My Facebook newsfeed has been exploding with comments on the recent Time magazine article about attachment parenting. Everyone (parents or not) seems to have an opinion. So here is my FFC: 

I do not give a flying f@ck how someone else raises their child. Breast feed, formula feed, wear your baby, use a stroller, co-sleep, have a crib. I don't care. I'll do me, you do you.* Instead of shaming and guilting women into believing one parenting style is superior to others, how about we stop all the bullsh@t and work together on things that will actually help parents and their children- better maternity and paternity leaves, universal healthcare, access to quality daycare, and an employment atmosphere that understands people have other obligations besides work. 

*except when it comes to vaccines, that is non-negotiable in my mind. 

Huahine

I just started another thread about this.  Lemme try to delete that and add my two cents here.

 

Time MagazineHave you all seen the latest issue of Time?  Shall we discuss?  I love the very adult looking almost 4 year old dressed in camouflage breast feeding on the cover. Could Time make it more obvious that they are exploiting the so called mommy wars to sell magazines?And that headline "are you mom enough?" Thanks for playing on women's insecurities rather than celebrating motherhood in all of its forms.But substantively there are a few pearls.  This is my favorite quote from the series of articles:  One more important factor Badinter ignores: sober-minded naturalism ? which involves cloth diapers, homemade, organic baby food and other laborious activities ? is also a response to anxiety about the chemical stew in which we are now awash. Mothers today have to be the EPA, the FDA and the USDA. Extensive medical research on endocrine disrupters? entering our children through creams, shampoos, toys, foods and plastics ? including baby bottles ? is the real ticking time bomb in our midst.
Read more: https://ideas.time.com/2012/05/10/why-breastfeeding-isnt-the-bugaboo/#ixzz1uYg078Ke  

Huahine

SmittyPants:

My Facebook newsfeed has been exploding with comments on the recent Time magazine article about attachment parenting. Everyone (parents or not) seems to have an opinion. So here is my FFC: 

I do not give a flying f@ck how someone else raises their child. Breast feed, formula feed, wear your baby, use a stroller, co-sleep, have a crib. I don't care. I'll do me, you do you.* Instead of shaming and guilting women into believing one parenting style is superior to others, how about we stop all the bullsh@t and work together on things that will actually help parents and their children- better maternity and paternity leaves, universal healthcare, access to quality daycare, and an employment atmosphere that understands people have other obligations besides work. 

*except when it comes to vaccines, that is non-negotiable in my mind. 

I totally agree (except with regard to vaccines - I don't see any reason for a newborn to get hep b. But that's a discussion for another time) with everything you said here. Why can we all not embrace a diversity of parenting styles?

SoonToBeMsP

Amen to that. And you might like this response to it:

 

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/lisa-belkin/no-i-am-not-mom-enough_b_1507550.html 

megaloo27

My FFFC along this topic is that I wanted to slap Dr. Sears during his interview on Today. He said he has never seen a child raised by attachment parenting become a school bully. This is ridiculous! I have had many very difficult "attachment" kids in my many years of teaching. There are two extremes that create trouble, the child ruling the home, and the parent being overly strict.  A child is truly formed in the first five years of life, what kind of character do you want to instill in them? I think giving them attention is so important, but what kind of attention are you giving them? 

SmittyPants

SoonToBeMsP:

Amen to that. And you might like this response to it:

 

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/lisa-belkin/no-i-am-not-mom-enough_b_1507550.html 

Eloquently put and absolutely correct. 

namara5532

megaloo27:

My FFFC along this topic is that I wanted to slap Dr. Sears during his interview on Today. He said he has never seen a child raised by attachment parenting become a school bully. This is ridiculous! I have had many very difficult "attachment" kids in my many years of teaching. There are two extremes that create trouble, the child ruling the home, and the parent being overly strict.  A child is truly formed in the first five years of life, what kind of character do you want to instill in them? I think giving them attention is so important, but what kind of attention are you giving them? 

Agreed.  I used to work for a daycare, and I could definately tell when a kid is overly spoiled.  Attachment parenting is great in concept because it contrasts neglected children and makes us rethink parenting styles that have become the norm that may not be best for baby.  But a child of extreme attachment parenting can definately be a bully.  They're so used to getting their way that they are willing to be aggressive with other children to get what they want.  On the other extreme, neglected kids lash out because they don't feel like they get any respect at home, so they demand it from everyone else.

To be fair though, even well balanced kids can be bullies.  I admit I had a spat where I bullied another kid to fit in with my friends who were also bullying him.  I didn't know I was being a bully until another teacher pulled me aside and told me I was hurting the other kid's feelings.  Bullies don't necessarily come from certain parenting styles.  It's as much the temperament of the child and what the adults reprimand them for doing.

CharlieTheUnicorn

I haven't read the article, and I'm not thrilled with the title, but I applaud Time for the picture. I didn't do extended BF'ing, but I can see the benifits of bringing it to the mainstream. 

KitKat83

SmittyPants:

My Facebook newsfeed has been exploding with comments on the recent Time magazine article about attachment parenting. Everyone (parents or not) seems to have an opinion. So here is my FFC: 

I do not give a flying f@ck how someone else raises their child. Breast feed, formula feed, wear your baby, use a stroller, co-sleep, have a crib. I don't care. I'll do me, you do you.* Instead of shaming and guilting women into believing one parenting style is superior to others, how about we stop all the bullsh@t and work together on things that will actually help parents and their children- better maternity and paternity leaves, universal healthcare, access to quality daycare, and an employment atmosphere that understands people have other obligations besides work. 

*except when it comes to vaccines, that is non-negotiable in my mind. 

Agree with you 100% on everything!! If you really want to get worked up about vaccines, visit "Vaccination Information Network" on facebook.  I posted real research that debunked all their stupid antivac articles, pointed out how their findings were flawed, I was very civil about it, more offering suggestions and they deleted them and blocked me from posting anything else. I get so mad when I look at that site, that I lose sleep over it haha!

 And your baby is sooo adorable, and I am absolutely in love with her name , Maeve.  

SmittyPants

michellekay06:

SmittyPants:

My Facebook newsfeed has been exploding with comments on the recent Time magazine article about attachment parenting. Everyone (parents or not) seems to have an opinion. So here is my FFC: 

I do not give a flying f@ck how someone else raises their child. Breast feed, formula feed, wear your baby, use a stroller, co-sleep, have a crib. I don't care. I'll do me, you do you.* Instead of shaming and guilting women into believing one parenting style is superior to others, how about we stop all the bullsh@t and work together on things that will actually help parents and their children- better maternity and paternity leaves, universal healthcare, access to quality daycare, and an employment atmosphere that understands people have other obligations besides work. 

*except when it comes to vaccines, that is non-negotiable in my mind. 

 

I agree completely. And your baby is unbelievably adorable.

Awe, thanks! 

SmittyPants

KitKat83:

SmittyPants:

My Facebook newsfeed has been exploding with comments on the recent Time magazine article about attachment parenting. Everyone (parents or not) seems to have an opinion. So here is my FFC: 

I do not give a flying f@ck how someone else raises their child. Breast feed, formula feed, wear your baby, use a stroller, co-sleep, have a crib. I don't care. I'll do me, you do you.* Instead of shaming and guilting women into believing one parenting style is superior to others, how about we stop all the bullsh@t and work together on things that will actually help parents and their children- better maternity and paternity leaves, universal healthcare, access to quality daycare, and an employment atmosphere that understands people have other obligations besides work. 

*except when it comes to vaccines, that is non-negotiable in my mind. 

Agree with you 100% on everything!! If you really want to get worked up about vaccines, visit "Vaccination Information Network" on facebook.  I posted real research that debunked all their stupid antivac articles, pointed out how their findings were flawed, I was very civil about it, more offering suggestions and they deleted them and blocked me from posting anything else. I get so mad when I look at that site, that I lose sleep over it haha!

 And your baby is sooo adorable, and I am absolutely in love with her name , Maeve.  

I get SO worked up about it. Jenny McCarthy was on television he other day and my husband had to turn it off because I was screaming too much. And thanks!! 

Lhand11

SmittyPants:

SoonToBeMsP:

Amen to that. And you might like this response to it:

 

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/lisa-belkin/no-i-am-not-mom-enough_b_1507550.html 

Eloquently put and absolutely correct. 

Amen! This is how I feel! 

zestyfrog7

SmittyPants:

My Facebook newsfeed has been exploding with comments on the recent Time magazine article about attachment parenting. Everyone (parents or not) seems to have an opinion. So here is my FFC: 

I do not give a flying f@ck how someone else raises their child. Breast feed, formula feed, wear your baby, use a stroller, co-sleep, have a crib. I don't care. I'll do me, you do you.* Instead of shaming and guilting women into believing one parenting style is superior to others, how about we stop all the bullsh@t and work together on things that will actually help parents and their children- better maternity and paternity leaves, universal healthcare, access to quality daycare, and an employment atmosphere that understands people have other obligations besides work. 

*except when it comes to vaccines, that is non-negotiable in my mind. 

Here here!!  You hit the nail right on the head!!