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Alis Volat Propiis

So I was browsing on Etsy last night, and I saw a keychain with the phrase "Alis Volat Propiis" on it.  It piqued my interest because my middle name, the middle name that I passed on to my daughter, is Alis.  It has always been a joke in my family that my mom spelled my middle name wrong on my birth certificate.  It is pronounced Uh-lees and she had intended to put an "e" at the end.  I passed the name along to Avery, misspellings and all, because she is a piece of me. 

I now realize that although the spelling was not intentional, it was meant to be that way.  Alis is a latin word meaning "winged"--what a perfect middle name for a perfect angel!  The phrase "Alis Volat Propiis" means "She flies with her own wings."  I texted my mom last night to tell her that and she replied, "She is only flying if Aunt Pallie (my great great aunt who was a huge part of my childhood) will put her down."  This brought a huge smile to my face.  (This also prompted me to look up Avery and find that it means "Elf Ruler."  A little random, but she did have dwarfism, so maybe it is a tiny bit appropriate?  That one is MUCH more of a stretch!)

Aunt Pallie was never able to have children of her own, and now Avery is hers to raise.  Of course she is still mine, but this wonderful woman who never had a chance to raise her own children is now raising my child.  If I had to choose any one person to raise my baby other that myself, it would be Aunt Pallie.  She is the most kind, compassionate, and considerate woman that I have ever met.  I have never thought of it like this.  I made it possible for Aunt Pallie to mother a child-how awesome is that?

Sorry for rambling on so much, but I am feeling a lot more positive today and I wanted to share.  It has been a rough week to say the least, but I finally found some peace today.  Now I want to get a tattoo of this phrase, but it might take a little while to convince my anti-ink husband that I need another one :)




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  • This is really sweet. Recently my husbands great uncle passed away. My husband has a lot of fond memories of this uncle taking him down to a big dirt pile to play with trucks when he was little. When DH's great-uncle passed away DH told me, "When I heard he had died I  thought about him taking Titus (our baby) down to a big dirt pile in heaven to play with trucks." Melted my heart.

    I'm glad you have been able to find a little peace today. many hugs.

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    Thank you for sharing this beautiful story with us!!

  • This made me cry, beautiful! I am happy you are feeling peaceful today.


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  • This is awesome... it is amazing to me how things from past experiences or circumstances can connect and have significant meaning to our present. 

    When I was born, my great great grandma was alive for a very short time.  There were five generations of women with the family name "Hart." It is tradition to pass on the middle name to the first born girl.  Well my great great grandma passed away leaving us with 4 generations.  When Sofia was born I gave her my middle name...which gave us 5 generations again.  When she passed away it let us with 4 again... the name won't be passed on anymore and it will always be just us four.  Sofia is burried next to my great grandpa Hart... which I found fitting.  The family name as well as my baby were laid to rest together. 

    It's just interesting the way things end up being.

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  • This brought tears to my eyes. What a wonderful discovery!

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  • Hey the fact that you were even able to talk him into you getting one is progress! I still can't convince mine!

    That is a wonderful thought, that your aunt finally gets a baby to raise! You should totally get that keychain! Sorry I'm kinda all over the place, got sugar and caffeinated up at work!

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  • Love the meaning of this and it is so sweet!
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  • I love, love, love everything about your story.  I love the signs we receive no matter how "far fetched" others might think they are.

     

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  • Lol, i wasn't!  I already had it when we started dating and he absolutely hates it.  He had to get into my pants to see it (it is on my hip) so it was too late to turn back at that point :)

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    Hey the fact that you were even able to talk him into you getting one is progress! I still can't convince mine!

    That is a wonderful thought, that your aunt finally gets a baby to raise! You should totally get that keychain! Sorry I'm kinda all over the place, got sugar and caffeinated up at work!




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    That is so beautiful! :)
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  • Glad your having a good day today!  What a awesome meaning for your angel's name! 

    One thing that has gotten me through this journey is knowing that my grandpa is with Gabriel and taking care of him till I can be with him again.  I posted about it in my blog a lot because it brought me a lot of joy and peace to know that my grandpa was there waiting to bring Gabriel home with him. 

     

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  • This is beautiful, Carey!  *hugs*
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    What a beautiful story, it brought tears to my eyes!  I love the signs that our angels send us to show us that they are still with us. Smile

     

     

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    Love this!! So beautiful Carey!

     

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  • That is a beautiful story and it made me cry happy tears!! Big hugs!!
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  • That is a perfect name for a beautiful baby girl. I'm so glad your aunt is taking good care of Avery Alis :)
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  • This is so, so cool.

    If you don't end up getting a tattoo of it, maybe you can find another way to use it? Like jewelry, artwork or ...? 

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