CT's 'this is me' blog post

jeannkerricotober09

Anyone want to play along?  Cookie did one too.  I am really digging both of them.  I would love to read about decisions/life styles from the rest of this board.  If I weren't absolutely exhausted from a teething little boy, I would start.  But I am.  Exhausted.  So I won't. I am not even sure this paragraph makes sense...

butterflygrooves

I'll play, I really liked that post too.

This is me:

1. I have a favorite child.

2. I let my 8 year old ride in the front seat every day after school.

3. I've been known to tell people that my 4 children are from 3 different fathers when they ask too many questions.

4. Sometimes I let my baby cry.

5. I dance with my kids.

6. I make my kids do 30 minutes of something active before they can watch TV or a movie.

7. I ask my two oldest every month or two if they know if they like boys or girls.  I let them know there is no pressure to figure it out, I'm just wondering how God made them.

8. I'm not afraid to talk to my kids about anything.

9. It both fascinates and frustrates me that all of my children are so different.

10. I try to compliment my kids without talking about their physical features.

11. I've explained what the word "sexy" means to my two oldest because close family members have told them to dance sexy or that they are sexy.  These family members (women) didn't mean any harm and don't use the word as American's use it but it was still put out there and now my kids know what it means.

12. I tell my kids they can't date until they are 55....then I smile and tell them MAYBE when they are 50.

13. I can be too short tempered with the kids.

14. My kids have chores as soon as they can walk.  Nothing big, picking up toys,taking sippy cups to the kitchen, more as they get older.  They don't get an allowance.

15. My wife wants to retire to Puerto Rico, if it means I can't see my kids often than I will stay here.

16.  My in-laws won't say anything to me but I'm well aware they think I'm not the best parent.  I don't care what they think at all, my kids are thriving and all but one are ahead of target.

17. I won't be able to put my children through college and that's fine with me, I feel that working hard to put oneself through school builds character.

18. I feel extremely guilty when we use disposable diapers at home.

19. I do not allow bottles after 1 year old even if it is comforting, use a cup or nothing.

20.  I let my kids watch UFC fights.

2mommiesinoh

This is me:

1) I wanted to cloth diaper but am secretly glad I never went through with it because disposable is so convenient.

2) I let my child have a small piece of candy or a cookie everyday as a dessert after dinner.

3) My child knows the correct words for her private parts and uses them, sometimes loudly in public.

4) If my child gets naked in our house/backyard and refuses to put on clothes, so be it.

5) My child eats a fast food cheeseburger at least once in two weeks and of course there are fries on the side.

6) I never made my own baby food.

7) I want another baby but not as bad as my spouse, I could be one and done and be happy.

8) I do not think my child HAS to go to college.

9) When my child calls for Dada in public and someone incorrectly asks about my husband I do not always correct them.

10) I will let my child watch just one more Elmo dvd if it means I can get another little something done around the house.

11) The only baby proofing in my house is outlet covers and medicine far out of reach.

12) I do baby gate off our bedroom because my child tends to get into our drawers and play with things she shouldn't.

13) I have lost my patience with my child and have raised my voice.

14) I let my child put herself to sleep, even if it means she cries.

15) If my child is playing quietly in her crib in the morning I will stay in bed until she yells for me, this has lasted 30+ minutes before.

Two*True

I could ditto most of CT's and now that they are in my head my list will probably have some of the same themes:

 

1. Sometimes I realize I enjoyed being a single parent more than co-parenting.  I was better at it.

2. Jelly Bean is still RFing and I have no plans to change it for the foreseeable future.

3. DD loves water but will sometimes ask for juice.  Her juice is a cup of water that I squeeze a few drops of lemon in - I totally have the kid tricked.

4. I think my parenting style is a blend of different methods and I'm okay with that.  I've never been one to follow any line of thinking 100%.

5.  When DD self-weaned around 13m I was thrilled.  I was ready for my body back.  And I don't care if extended BFers want to judge me.

6. Sometimes I'll let DD go to sleep without brushing her teeth if it's going to be a fight and I'm not up for it.

7. Every so often I'll lay in DDs room after she falls asleep just so I don't have to go downstairs and clean.

8. I don't understand parents who don't give their children adult food.  I don't see any reason why a two year old can't be trying indian, greek, sushi, etc.

9. I'm a parent that will always travel with my child.  I'll take her to the end of the earth and back (my myself if needed) just to let her experience the world.

10.  I find parenting much easier than I thought it would be (based on how others make it out to be).

ctbride08

Two*True:

I could ditto most of CT's and now that they are in my head my list will probably have some of the same themes:

And I could ditto a lot of yours  

Sprout saw your FB profile pic of JB on the plane and was so jealous.  I can't wait to get him seeing the world.

Two*True

ctbride08:

Two*True:

I could ditto most of CT's and now that they are in my head my list will probably have some of the same themes:

And I could ditto a lot of yours  

Sprout saw your FB profile pic of JB on the plane and was so jealous.  I can't wait to get him seeing the world.

He can come to Cali with us anytime :-)  I offer to take everyone "home" with me and I mean it.  We could plan a family road trip from one end of the state to the other.

tdmklm

Let's see...

1. I let J eat whatever he wants to eat, and I have pretty much since he started eating solid food (because he kept eyeing my food! ). I tried to stay away from common allergens, but after he ate scallion pancakes with shrimp in them (we didn't realize shrimp was an ingredient until we were about halfway through it), we sort of let it go. So yeah, my kid had spicy curry when he was six months old. And he liked it, too.

2. It was hard for me emotionally when J fired my breasts. He was six months old. I'm not sure how long I would have breastfed, but six months was too early for ME.

3. I had an epidural for his birth, and I don't regret it one bit. I wanted to have a natural birth, but Pitocin = 1298412894 x T = 0. If I have another child and don't have to be induced, I'll probably try for a natural birth. If I have to be induced, I'll ask for the epidural right away.

4. We chose to circumcise J based on the opinions of the people in our family who have penises (including our donor). I don't have one, I've never dealt with one except for J's, and I didn't feel equipped to make that decision.

5. Sometimes I have a hard time sharing parenting decisions with K. She can be too carefree, and I can be too worried.

Work calls. More later, maybe.

Two*True

tdmklm:

 So yeah, my kid had spicy curry when he was six months old. And he liked it, too.

   In my family there is a joke that I'm so white that Tabasco sauce is about as spicy as I can go.  Well not DD.  Last night we were having an indian dish that even K thought was spicy.  DD ate some up and asked for more. I sincerely hope she is always this adventurous with her food tastes.

2brides

1. I let my kids have Happy Meals once a week (though they eat the nuggets, apples, and milk version.) How did I give birth to kids who don't like fries?

2. My kids will be 6y next week and are still in 5 pt harnesses. I have no plans to make a change to a booster seat. We still have 15lbs to go!

3. I tell my kids I love them multiple times a day - even though they roll their eyes and say, "I knoooooow."

4. I allow my kids to play non-educational video games. Probably more than I should.

5. We kept to a strict naptime/bedtime routine until they were 5y. 

6. I have a lot less patience with my kids than I thought I would.

7. I am a yeller. I am not proud of it, but sometimes it is the only thing I have found that gets the attention of 2 kids who are feeding off of each other.

8. The boys get read to almost every night before bed. We probably only miss 2-3 nights a month. I love that we have this tradition and I love that they still love to be read to.

9. While my head knows that my kids will be fluent readers one day, I still sometimes worry when I watch them struggle to read.

10. I try not to compare my kids to each other and to other kids. But I do.

11. I am still a little shocked about how much I miss my pre-kids life. I never have regretted them for a second, but I do miss quick trips to the grocery store en route home from work, movie marathons/nap in bed all day on a Saturday, and alone time.

12. I sometimes feel guilty for feeling so strongly that we don't want another child. I just can't fathom starting all over again.

13. I don't fight my kids on eating veggies, but make sure they eat fruit.

14.  I probably make too many parenting choices based on my laziness.

15.  Prior to TTC, during TTC, and my entire pregnancy, I swore that everyone would be sleeping in their own bed and no kids would be sleeping in our bed. Until I had a kid who didn't sleep through the night until he was 3.5y.  Sleep trumped principal.

16. I think I should have stopped pumping much sooner than I did (11.5m.) BF/Pumping caused me a huge amount of anxiety and it limited how long I could be out since tandem nursing 2 babies in public wasn't happening. I think I would have been much more relaxed had I not had the pressures of BFing. But it was important to L and I guilted myself into doing it.

17.  I sometimes regret we didn't do a ID release donor. Our bank didn't have it at the time and we went with convenience and price. I worry that the kids are going to be upset that they can't/don't have access to him.

18. I HATE that my kids have so many half siblings. There are a LOT of them. A LOT. And it makes me uncomfortable. I wish I had known it before we used him. But then we wouldn't have the kids we have now.

19. We haven't started talking to the kids about their donor/how babies are made/etc. It hasn't come up and we haven't broached it.

20.  I am that parent that feeds my kids a lot of kid food. We rarely cook dinner since we get home so late. We relied on kid foods that were easy/fast and now are having a hard time breaking it with one of the kids.