Struggling every day

getfuzzytoo

I left my husband almost a month ago, and have been living with my parents. I'm six months pregnant and scared to do this alone. I found out he was cheating our entire marriage and couldn't take the lies and abuse any more. He's been out of the country and is coming home on mother's day. I'm scared for him to return because i want nothing to do with him. I guess my question is, how do you deal with seeing the father of your child after the baby is born. Does it get easier? I'm worried he will move on before me (seems he already has). But how will I face him for the rest of my life, knowing what he did to me and our "family." I guess it would be easier if I could have left him without any strings attached. But I don't want to be the kind of mother that doesn't let her baby see her father. He's so manipulative that I don't even trust him around me or my daughter. I don't see things changing. it just feels so hopeless. How do you single mothers do this? I'm not sure if I'm strong enough.

MsJosie

I don't have any advice for you but I'm in a similar situation except I wasn't married to him and was happy to be alone. I left my daughters father when I was 4 months pregnant. I found out he was doing cocaine and smoking weed, when I confronted him he abused me while I was pregnant so I left. My lo will be 14 months old in a few days and the sight of my EX still makes my skin crawl, absolutely sick to my stomache that someone soo evil walks this planet. I was hoping that it would get easier but it hasn't. He plays the victim role and denies everything that he has done. I just want him out of our lives for good. He's doing no good for my lo except confusing her since he comes in and out of her life every 2-4 months. She has no idea who he is. You are strong and you have to be for your Lo!!!

lilhockeygurlMOM

That's hard to say hun. Everyone heals differently. And you are strong enough to do this cause you left him because you deserve better. If you need a support system the ladies on here can be amazing. Also, don't see him till your over him if possible. There are ways to make that work. Otherwise if you do see him don't let him see that your hurt. Show him what a strong woman you are. He might never make your life happy but your child with make all his sh!t worth it.