Mother's Day...

lhakers

What are your plans? 

Tomorrow is Mother's Day in Mexico... Sofia's dads family is from Jalisco.  So I get to celebrate Mother's Day twice...  I am OK at the moment, but I think it is just because I am repressing the emotion to be upset or disappointed. 

This may be selfish... but my significant other (not Sofia's dad) has 2 children (7 and 4...boy and girl) and I am irritated that the mother of his kids (who is litteraly crazy) gets to celebrate with them.  I want him to do something for me... I know ... selfish.  I'm glad she was blessed with the opprotunity to be a mother, even if she is a horrible person.  Do I sound bitter? 

fluttergirlmoonchild79

I don't think you sound bitter at all.  If you are, then I am too.  I find myself getting so jealous of people who have kids and even more of ones who have more than one.  It just doesn't seem fair to me.  I just want 1.  It further ticks me off when I hear stories of women who don't fulfill their "mommy role" the way they should.  {{HUGS}}

jbranden12

fluttergirlmoonchild79:

I don't think you sound bitter at all.  If you are, then I am too.  I find myself getting so jealous of people who have kids and even more of ones who have more than one.  It just doesn't seem fair to me.  I just want 1.  It further ticks me off when I hear stories of women who don't fulfill their "mommy role" the way they should.  {{HUGS}}

This. Not bitter. You sound just like my bff who has step children, she gets irritated when her husband doesn't recognize her in a special way on Mother's Day. Totally justified I think. But you have the added pain of a loss, and the mixed emotions about being a mother that all of us with no living children feel.

Dh and I were on a walk last night in our neighborhood and we saw a family ahead of us with a little boy on the mother's back and a little girl in a wagon. I was feeling sad so we walked quickly to pass them and yup, sure enough, the woman was pregnant again. I tried to tell myself that I don't know what she has been through to have those kids, but I was still jealous. Walking as a family, it's all we want.

BronwynJaede

Not bitter or selfish at all. 

I'm just going to try and ignore the world the next few days.  Friday is my birthday, and 4 weeks since my son was stillborn.  Sunday will be not just Mother's Day but one month since he was born.  It's so, so hard.

I hope we can all me gentle with ourselves this Sunday.

pb127

Last year, DH and I went to the park and had a picnic. It was wonderful.  This year, I'm have a GTG with other TTCALers and then spending extra time with DH. I can't believe I'm actually looking forward to Mother's Day this year.

Your feelings are aboslutely understandable, I'd totally feel the same way (((hugs)))

dexnmav

jbranden12:

fluttergirlmoonchild79:

I don't think you sound bitter at all.  If you are, then I am too.  I find myself getting so jealous of people who have kids and even more of ones who have more than one.  It just doesn't seem fair to me.  I just want 1.  It further ticks me off when I hear stories of women who don't fulfill their "mommy role" the way they should.  {{HUGS}}

This. Not bitter. You sound just like my bff who has step children, she gets irritated when her husband doesn't recognize her in a special way on Mother's Day. Totally justified I think. But you have the added pain of a loss, and the mixed emotions about being a mother that all of us with no living children feel.

Dh and I were on a walk last night in our neighborhood and we saw a family ahead of us with a little boy on the mother's back and a little girl in a wagon. I was feeling sad so we walked quickly to pass them and yup, sure enough, the woman was pregnant again. I tried to tell myself that I don't know what she has been through to have those kids, but I was still jealous. Walking as a family, it's all we want.

We were walking around town during a local festival and a couple that looked similar to us was walking with their two little girls. They made a bee-line for the garage sale that had a big sign advertising different sized kids clothes. I wanted that to be us. They just looked..... complete. Cried all the way back to the car. 

FirstTimer02

I feel that we are all moms, and we get to be proud of ourselves and our kiddos.