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Meetings have been difficult.

Bonnie SueBonnie Sue member
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So, we have met with three agencies so far and have one more tomorrow. I kind of thought we would like most of them based off of their websites, but so far we have only really liked one. It's a little disheartening when you walk out of a place disappointed. Hopefully we are able to feel very confident in whatever decision we end up making.
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**Bonnie**
Married Sept 13, 2009
TTC since Jan 2010
Diagnosed w/ PCOS Oct 2010
1500mg metformin
SA 05/25/11 morphology @ 10%
HSG 06/02/11, tubes were clear, uterine septum discovered
06/30/11 Hysteroscopy, found a polyp blocking R fallopian tube
07/20/11 Successful surgery to remove polyp and uterine septum!
Sept/Oct cycle-Femara IUI turned into TI cycle= cancelled due to unresponsive follies
09/28/11: dx w/ MTHFR (cc)
10/22/11: IUI #1 w/ Femara + Menopur + trigger+ diluted hcg shots= BFN :-(
03/25/12: IUI #2 w/ Femara + Menopur + trigger+progesterone= BFN
Starting to pursue adoption
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    I'm sorry to hear they weren't all fabulous. But on the flip side, it will make your decision much easier.
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  • bumpuser794640bumpuser794640 member
    I hope that you are able to make a decision about which agency is best for you!  We only visited with one in person, but we had a really great feeling afterward.  Hoping for the same for you!
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  • so1966so1966
    sorry. hope you find one that you feel comfortable with and have good success going forward with them!....the process can be challenging, but wishing you the best!...
    After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member
    The upside is they are doing the work for you :)
    Weeding out agencies can be hard work... it's great that one feels like a good fit.
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  • tfkre8ivetfkre8ive member

    We went to one meeting and left so very disappointed. I expected to leave with a warm, fuzzy, this-is-the-right-agency-for-us feeling based on recommendations from people we know and we left feeling as hopeless and depressed as we felt after both miscarriages and several failed fertility treatments.

    The big issue we had was at the info meeting they presented only the birth parents' perspective through a video, and the video implied that open adoptions mean that birth parents become a part of your family, babysit for you and you bring them on vacation with you. It sounded like they promoted co-parenting. There was no video from adoptive parents' or adoptees' perspectives.

    I emailed the agency to give feedback on the meeting and let them know it felt very one sided. I received a call from them the next day. Maybe you should provide them with your honest feedback, you probably weren't the only ones who felt that way.

    Baby #1 due 2/10/14!
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  • Bonnie SueBonnie Sue member
    Thanks everyone! 
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    **Bonnie**
    Married Sept 13, 2009
    TTC since Jan 2010
    Diagnosed w/ PCOS Oct 2010
    1500mg metformin
    SA 05/25/11 morphology @ 10%
    HSG 06/02/11, tubes were clear, uterine septum discovered
    06/30/11 Hysteroscopy, found a polyp blocking R fallopian tube
    07/20/11 Successful surgery to remove polyp and uterine septum!
    Sept/Oct cycle-Femara IUI turned into TI cycle= cancelled due to unresponsive follies
    09/28/11: dx w/ MTHFR (cc)
    10/22/11: IUI #1 w/ Femara + Menopur + trigger+ diluted hcg shots= BFN :-(
    03/25/12: IUI #2 w/ Femara + Menopur + trigger+progesterone= BFN
    Starting to pursue adoption
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