2 under 2 and work full time

sara1176

Hello, my boys will be exactly two years apart and my husband and I both work full time.  The other day I was talking with a coworker and she was asking me how worried I was about balancing everything.  I explained that I know that it will probably be more difficult than I can imagine but we will do it.  She then went on to tell me how she has never known even one person with children so close where both SO's continue to work full time. 

 

Please tell me it's possible!  We are not in a position for either one of us to work less even though I would love too!  TIA! 

MammaBear81

Well you can tell her about me, I have 5 kids, all of them are under 2 years apart (no twins) and DH and I both work full time.  I'm a very mathematical person, so I think of it this way.  24 hours in a day, 8 hours for work, 8 hours for kids/house stuff and 8 hours for sleep.  When you compartmentalize your time you realize how much time you DO have in a day rather than worrying about how much time you don't have.  GL and tell your coworker to back off   Just because she can't handle 2 under 2 doesn't mean you can't!

sara1176

Thank you!

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babyhunbun7

It better be possible or I am in trouble!  My LOs will be 17ish months apart and after 12 weeks at home alone with the 2 of them I will going back to work full time.  I am sure it will be bitter sweet. 

itsmevkb

Well, I will have two under two and four under six and yes, both my husband and I will continue to work.

Of course it's possible.  Perhaps your friend just doesn't know people who make enough money to afford to have two in daycare at the same time as that adds up pretty quickly.  So, if one parent only makes $25,000 a year and they are going to have to spend $24,000 on daycare then that may be why they choose to not keep working as opposed to it being about balancing work and motherhood.

Life is a balancing act if you work or not, have kids or not, etc. In the end, it all works itself out though.  You can definitely make it work.

mexicolombiana

MammaBear81:

Well you can tell her about me, I have 5 kids, all of them are under 2 years apart (no twins) and DH and I both work full time.  I'm a very mathematical person, so I think of it this way.  24 hours in a day, 8 hours for work, 8 hours for kids/house stuff and 8 hours for sleep.  When you compartmentalize your time you realize how much time you DO have in a day rather than worrying about how much time you don't have.  GL and tell your coworker to back off   Just because she can't handle 2 under 2 doesn't mean you can't!

Good answer! you will be fine OP.  mine are 18 months apart and it's silly that your co-worker doesn't know anyone else with kids so close together in age! 

sara1176

Thank you so much everyone! 

skyejo

Talk about a Debbie Downer.  Geez...I'll have 2u2 come September and I'm sure hoping it's possible because there's no turning my back on this baby or my job I'm sure it will be tough at first but we'll get through it.  We're planning on about the same spacing for our third too and, call me crazy, we may even try for a fourth. 

Don't let her worry you! There are plently of 2u2 working mamas.  You will settle into a nice routine and you'll wonder why you ever worried in the first place. 

philkristi

I think your coworker is a sheltered!  I have 2 kids, almost 15 months apart and me & DH both work full time...I have a 40 minute commute and it works just fine.  Granted I would love to be home with them but we also weren't in a position for me to stay home so you do what you gotta do.  Yes I am more tired than a person with no kids or even 1 kid but it's not that hard.  Granted my DH is very hands on and I could not do it without him...