Can this be my home?

winofairy

I know the "rules" say that I need to be on the IF board for 6 months.  I don't always obey rules and have been bad and posting on both boards.  Primarily the IF board because I didn't want to make anyone upset by being a rule breaker.

Our 1st and ONLY IVF is a bust.  3 days of BFFN on the pee sticks and the ugly b!tch showed her ugly face in full force this morning.  I don't even think I'm going to even bother with my beta on the 10th at this point since the crinone couldn't even keep her away.

We won't be pursuing any further IF treatments and even though I'm happy when others get their BFP's on the IF board it still stings and I'm just not in a place right now where I feel like I would be any good over there anymore.  Yes, I'm bitter BITTER bitter!

Can I make this my home?  It would mean so much to me if you could see past my lack of 6 months on the IF board.  After 2.5yrs and all these failed cycles I feel like I'm an IFV and not a noob.

DebateThis

::waves::

We can ride the bitter boat together. 

Edwina.McDunnough

Personally I find this disrespectful. I know you're hurting but it's not the same thing. You are missing the point. This is not a board for the bitter, it is a place for longtime posters who know each other very well, have supported each other for the long haul, and who have struggles that are unique to being infertile among infertile. And people here have successful cycles all the time. If you are looking for company of those that regretfully are not pursuing family building of any kind the CFNBC board can better address your concerns.

winofairy

Edwina.McDunnough:

Personally I find this disrespectful. I know you're hurting but it's not the same thing. You are missing the point. This is not a board for the bitter, it is a place for longtime posters who know each other very well, have supported each other for the long haul, and who have struggles that are unique to being infertile among infertile. And people here have successful cycles all the time. If you are looking for company of those that regretfully are not pursuing family building of any kind the CFNBC board can better address your concerns.

  not quite the reception I was hoping for....

and well I was waiting for this post...

I wasn't trying to be disrespectful in ANY way!  I didn't ever say this board was for the bitter.  EVER!  Just the opposite.  I feel bitter.  Me.  About MY own battle.

I am an infertile trying to be supportive of others who are also infertile.  Yes, I know people on this board have successful cycles and I am thrilled for them when they do. I am thrilled when anyone struggling with IF does.

I just felt drawn to this board based on my own personal battle with infertility. 

I said I wasn't pursuing any further IF treatments but we will continue to try on our own until AF decides to stop visiting.  We did get pg once before on our own and maybe just maybe it will happen again.

I will leave this board as to not disrespect YOU or anyone else any further.  I apologize as it was not my intention at all.

rockpaperlove

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your recent BFN. Sending many hugs. I know you are hurting and I wish you all the best as you begin the healing process.

winofairy

rockpaperlove:

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your recent BFN. Sending many hugs. I know you are hurting and I wish you all the best as you begin the healing process.

Thank you rockpaperlove!!  Thank you so much!

KissyfaceKate

rockpaperlove:

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your recent BFN. Sending many hugs. I know you are hurting and I wish you all the best as you begin the healing process.

 

This! And that I personally wanted to thank you for responding to my posts in a supportive way. Good luck on wherever this next road leads you.  

Edwina.McDunnough

I don't get it. People on the IF board (and TTC for that matter) are infertile so you are in good company. For clarification, if everyone who "liked" this board better came on and posted then there is no point in having it at all and it should just get eliminated. There is no need for multiple "general IF" boards with different vibes; the Vets board is distinguished by it's longstanding commitment to community.

In establishing the board we had to draw a line, and 6 months was an established "vets" status for the TTCAL board and it made editorial sense for Bump board continuity. It's not fair for every other person who wants to join but acknowledges that that "rule" is there for a reason. It's not fair to let you do what you want and for someone else to not have the same treatment. It's not okay to ask us to show favoritism. It's not personal, it's about treating everyone as equals.

I'm not the voice of this board and I'm sure there are people who feel differently, but you asked for my opinion and there it is. If you're just as excited to post here when it's the right time then you're more than welcome and I have no hard feelings.

Sloane99

I'm with Edwina on this one - please feel free to post in a few months. The passive-aggressive "thanks for your supportive posts" implies that the rest of us are not a supportive group. Quite the contrary, a lot of us are here precisely because we've been a supportive part of the IF community for a long time and wish to stay connected to that community regardless of where we are on this path.