LO is 3 months old and H is talking about having another, I think because he wants a boy. He says it in a joking way but I think he is serious. I'm still feeling like there's *no way* I want to have another but everyone keeps telling me to wait a year and I will change my mind. My pregnancy was tough on me - morning sickness, insomnia and lots of pains in the last month or two (to the point where walking was painful). And the first 3 months have been hell on me, mostly due to problems with breastfeeding, severe lack of sleep and my body being generally run down from the pregnancy and birth. I realize lots of other moms have had the same issues, or worse, but I just wasn't coping well.
LO is sleeping longer stretches now so it's not as bad, but I still can't imagine wanting to do this again. I'm feeling a bit old and run down to go through all this again, and of course we will have a toddler to contend with too. I really don't think I'm going to change my mind. Did anyone else feel this way a few months after your first but then change your mind later?
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Whoa.. both of you kids slow it down! Now is not the time to start making these kinds of decisions.. either pro or con. DH needs to hold his horses a bit. And you can't make a proper decision when you're still just getting used to the newborn in your life. Give it some time on both fronts.
But NOW is not the time to be hashing all this out.
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I totally agree with you both. DH isn't pressuring me and we aren't having serious conversations about it. He just brings it up occasionally, in a joking way even though I think he's not joking. I won't be taking any drastic measures (BC-wise) or anything but I certainly don't want to think about having another one right now. I've seen posts from other boards where the poster knows they want to have more babies even though they have a newborn and I just can't comprehend that!
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I didn't have the easiest of pregnancies either. I was pretty darn sick towards the end and the thought of getting pregnant again sends chills up and down my spine. I don't know if this is something that I am willing to put myself and my body through again. I had a really rough 3 months after DS was was born as well. Breastfeeding was a nightmare, my little dude has some serious milk and soy allergies so I completely understand how tired/strained/overwhelmed you are feeling right now. Moving to a special formula was a Godsend for us.
The all the PPs advice and slow down for a minute. Enjoy your little one. You've got plenty of time to make this decision.
Now that I've said all that, I will tell you that we are thinking/planning out next one. I really don't want my son to have to deal with me and my DH all by himself when we are old. LOL. Like I said, I don't know if pregnancy is for me a 2nd time around but the thought of having a LO around again isn't as big a nightmare as it was 3 months ago. It gets easier, I promise. Give yourself some time to just get into a routine and relax a little before the subject comes up again.
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IMO, regardless of age, one should not make a decision re: a 2nd (or 3rd, or 4th... ) child before their current infant is at least 9 months old--preferably a year or more. That's my opinion and I could be wrong... but I think one needs to give a big decision like that time.
Of course we made our decision to stop at one before my DS was even born. But it was the right choice for us.
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All of this, OP. Slow down! You still have a newborn. And no, I am still not ready for a second and I'm still unsure if I want another one.