Well color me stupid.

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I just found an adderall pill in the room SS was staying in.  This is what I found:

Adderall is a central nervous system stimulant. It affects chemicals in the brain and nerves that contribute to hyperactivity and impulse control.

Adderall is used to treat narcolepsy and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

Adderall may also be used for other purposes not listed in this medication guide.

Adderall is a drug of abuse and may be habit-forming. Keep track of the amount of medicine used from each new bottle. You should be aware if anyone is using your medicine improperly or without a prescription. Using this medication improperly can cause death or serious side effects on the heart.

I don't know who I'm more pissed off at. Me for believing he didn't do drugs in my home, or him.

Probably me.  You all warned me.  And if my daughter had found it and taken it...I don't even want to go there.

Trying to calm down long enough to decide how to bring this up to DH.

+j+k+

Just told DH and you would NOT believe the ridiculous excuses he's making for SS.

Well maybe you would.

I told DH that I'd take it to a pharmacist tomorrow to confirm but what I have found so far is not looking good. 

+j+k+

OMFG. The more I read, the angrier I am getting. I am shaking.

I am such a dumbass.

fellesferie

Do you know for sure that he has never been diagnosed w/ adhd? That he does not have a scrip for it?

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Yes, I am pretty certain.

That was part of the deal. That he disclose all meds, prescription, dope, pills, etc. while in our home.  If we so much as suspected he was doing anything at all - he knew he could be kicked out. Even if he hid a prescription.

The drug is HIGHLY addictive. Even people with ADD and ADHD on some of the boards I'm reading said they had to get off of it because it was so addictive. 

 

honeybee #1

Stop reading. Do a deep clean on your house and make sure that there are no more for your DD to find. I'd also give up giving your husband an excuse to make excuses and stop talking to him about it. If all works out with him, your SS won't be there any more anyway.

Karma1969

My guess is that he used it to keep him awake all day after being up all night. They sell.it around here and each pill.sells for about $5-10. It's like speed if people take it that don't need it. Sorry J. I know you thought he was actually doing ok at your house. It's very available to buy in MI. and many other states.

CurlyQ284

Yep, people at my college used to use them to study for finals. Im sorry you have yet another thing to deal with

Holly_1007

I wonder if thats what was causing him to be awake all night? or perhaps as PP suggested he was awake all night of his own decision and then used the aderol to stay awake during the day. 

I ditto PP, do a deep clean of your house. then come mid june get those papers  moving forward. enough is enough is enough j+k......

MarSamWhitney

honeybee #1:

Stop reading. Do a deep clean on your house and make sure that there are no more for your DD to find. I'd also give up giving your husband an excuse to make excuses and stop talking to him about it. If all works out with him, your SS won't be there any more anyway.

This. and I really feel its time to get the heck out of there.

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I just spoke with his sister. She said he's never been diagnosed for ADD or ADHD.  It's a cheap drug to get apparently, very easy to get. 

DH this morning said to me, "You know, he was complaining of a toothache..."

OMFG.  Stop already.  He refuses to accept it.

Yes. I am done. I was yesterday anyways in regards to another matter and talked to both my lawyers about the steps we need to take.  We have a game plan and depending on how difficult DH will be, we are moving forward as quickly as we can. Again, it will have to be mid June. That gives me plenty of time to wrap up financials and I am going to be gone on a business trip early June and we do not want to risk DH taking off with DD, or property or clearing the bank account while I'm gone. 

SS will most definitely be on to the list of individuals who are not allowed to be with DD unsupervised and who can not be in the home when DD is with DH. 

CurlyQ284

wow your DH really is in denial if he thinks SS needs ADD medication for a toothache. I know you said he made excuses but this is nuts

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Yeah. He is SOOOO in denial. He keeps saying it looks like the Aleve pills I gave DH.  Yeah. Now I'm the scapegoat. 

I'm really at a loss here.

I can't even begin to tell you how badly I feel like tearing my hair out. 

Holly_1007

take DD out for a girls day.  get out of that friggen house and spend time with DD