Ready to move?

fluttergirlmoonchild79

So my DH and I have been talking about moving.  We've been very casually looking at homes online for probably the last 6 months or so just to get a feel for what's out there.  Immediately after Corbin passed I wanted to move.  Hell, it took me 45 minutes just to walk into my house that morning because I hate what happened here - but in the same breath, Corbin's room is here and it's the only house he's ever known.  Yes, we'd make a room for Corbin at a new house but I feel like if we leave, we'll leave his spirit behind here.  Also, our original plan was that I was going to stop working if/when we have our rainbow but if we move, I'd have to keep working.  I'm very torn about the idea.  I want a new house and we can afford it but the idea of walking away from here upsets me.  But I want a fresh start.  But I don't want to leave.  Does this even make any sense?  Sorry that I'm rambling.  We're planning on TTCAL this November so we're thinking this is the perfect opportunity. Has anyone else made this decision and what did you do?

pb127

We are moving soon too. We have to move, so a little different.  I am struggling with a lot of what you've written though... I try to look at it as taking the good, happy memories with us and getting a chance to make more. Our current place has been such a sad place for us over the last 14+ months now.  Our LOs will come with us, have a space of their own and have fun exploring the new place and helping us to make happy moments too.  I always feel like their spirit follows us... is tied to us.  I "feel" them when I am not home just as often as I do when I am at home (and my DH who doesn't have the same view of things as I do has said he feels the same).  Big (((hugs))) for your decision

magdalina.h

makes a ton of sense and is very normal. I'm not sure if we talked about it at group last time, but Melissa painted the inside of her entire house because she needed a change. We can't move yet, but I want to so bad. Besides hating my house, I just need a huge change. I'm not worried about leaving Aidan behind because he's always with me. He will always know where his mommy and daddy are.

medblais

My DH and I are originally from the northeast, currently living in Texas. It has always been the plan to move back north. While I was pregnant with Genevieve, we started talking more seriously about that time being sooner than later, to get closer to our families so they could be in her life more. After she died, and DH's family let him down the way they did and the support we received from the true friends we made here, I decided I had to be here for my next child. I need to have my midwife with me that was there for the wonderful birth and the horrific NICU experience a month later. I need the family of friends around me for that support. We will eventually move, and some days I really don't want to be here anymore, but for the time being it is what I need. I was feeling very back and forth on it until one day when I was sitting in the nursery which is still completely set up, and it just hit me that this is where I need to be right now.