Pain Relief Theory

karlahi

Although I would describe giving birth as a near death experience I have to say I feel like I tried all sorts! My 1st was 20 days late and I was forced to have an epidural and I have to say in comparison to natural birth pain relief was a massive hindrance and delayed the entire process! Also recovery speed is reduced too. Natural birth allows the endorphins of love to be released whereas pain relief delays everything. If possible try and do it naturally. I would love to have another and I'm getting broody at the thought! Good luck to those expecting at the mo xxx

sschwege

I'm all for med-free births and that's the way my daughter was born and I hope our future babies.  But honestly, I was one of those women who did not feel that instant love everyone else seems to describe.  I'm not proud of this but I remember the following day looking at my daughter in my MIL's arms and thinking 'motherhood is so hard, how am I going to do this if I don't even love my child?!'  Luckily that following night I looked down at DD and she all of a sudden looked so familiar to me, like I had known her forever and I loved her beyond words from that moment on.  Anyway, just wanted to share my experience

sschwege

Starbuck128:

It sounds so terrible, but after DS was born, I was just glad it was over. I feel awful for even typing that, and I cried when I told DH a few days after the birth. I hadn't slept in over 48 hours and I was starving. I wanted to hold DS and look him over, and his cries upset me, but in those first couple of hours I didn't feel a lot of love. Over the next couple of days, all those feelings of love came rushing in and overwhelmed me, but it was not an immediate thing.

As for the endorphins as pain relief. Those were sweet! I can't imagine an epidural being any better. I wouldn't do it any other way.

That's exactly how I felt, just relief to be done! 

venussapphire

sschwege:

I'm all for med-free births and that's the way my daughter was born and I hope our future babies.  But honestly, I was one of those women who did not feel that instant love everyone else seems to describe.  I'm not proud of this but I remember the following day looking at my daughter in my MIL's arms and thinking 'motherhood is so hard, how am I going to do this if I don't even love my child?!'  Luckily that following night I looked down at DD and she all of a sudden looked so familiar to me, like I had known her forever and I loved her beyond words from that moment on.  Anyway, just wanted to share my experience

Aww that is so heart warming.

blush64

karlahi:

Although I would describe giving birth as a near death experience I have to say I feel like I tried all sorts! My 1st was 20 days late and I was forced to have an epidural and I have to say in comparison to natural birth pain relief was a massive hindrance and delayed the entire process! Also recovery speed is reduced too. Natural birth allows the endorphins of love to be released whereas pain relief delays everything. If possible try and do it naturally. I would love to have another and I'm getting broody at the thought! Good luck to those expecting at the mo xxx

I had one med-free birth and one with an epidural and the feeling of love was the same each time. The amount of time I was in labour was also about the same each time. My recovery was not slowed down in the least with an epidural and I was actually much more rested and able to deal with the baby.

I am all for a med-free birth when that is what the woman wants to do. I would say, if possible, and if preferred, try for a med-free birth. I don't think it's the right choice for everyone.

I plan on going med-free next time as well but I am open to do whatever I need and want to do. I think that's the way it should be for women.