sprinkle?

ktshafra

What are your thoughts on having a sprinkle for 2u2? I don't feel right about it, necessarily, because my two will be 13 months apart so it's like I just had my shower for DD. I probably shouldn't even worry since no one has mentioned anything, but I'm starting to think ahead in case someone tries to throw me one...

12bailey18

If someone offers to throw you a sprinkle than all you have to do is politely decline. My friends threw me one but that was the norm for our tight circle of friends. I wouldn't think to invite anyone outside of our circle but it was just fine for this group of girls- we've done it countless times for each other. They asked me and I said yes. If I didn't feel comfortable with it, I would have said no.  No big deal!

KimGuilbault

Mine are 13 months apart too and my sister and some close friends insisted on throwing me one. I was totally against it, but I let them do it anyways. They thought it was a good idea because I had NOTHING boy and no one in our family or close circle of friends had boys, so there was nothing for hand me downs (now everyone loves it cause I am the hand me down person since everyone is having boys now) I didn't invite any of my family but my sister in law (she is one of my close friends too though) My mom wasn't even invited. I think it ended up being like 10 of my close friends and their kids. We had it at one of my friends house and me and my sister made pasta and bought wine and my other friend bought cake. That was it. All I got was diapers and clothes (which was a huge help) My sister bought him a bouncer and play mat but those were my only big gifts. We used the same stroller I had for my daughter as I picked out one that could be used for a boy or girl when I picked out for my daughter as I knew I wanted more kids.

akbride25

I'm not big on showers for the second child, so I declined when someone offered. Even so, it is prettty common here. A lot of times they will have a diaper shower if the person is having the same gender as before..

MammaBear81

akbride25:

I'm not big on showers for the second child, so I declined when someone offered. Even so, it is prettty common here. A lot of times they will have a diaper shower if the person is having the same gender as before..

This, I've never actually heard of anyone having a second shower (unless kids were 5+ years apart) until I came to TB.

KRB8

I was against the idea at first, but my sister was pretty insistent.  I did have a sprinkle.  About 10 people were invited and attended (my shower with DD1 had over 50 people).  I'm glad I had one.  Everyone seemed to have fun, and it was a nice way to celebrate the coming of another child.  I didn't register anywhere.  People brought diapers, clothing, toys, etc.  It is nice having a few new things for DD2.  I figured if people didn't like the concept, they can just decline.

skyejo

I was never planning on having another shower, especially since my two will be right around 23 months apart and are both girls, but two of my coworkers decided to plan it and told me about it after they were all excited. 

I feel a bit awkward about it but I think it's very sweet that they're doing this for me. 

2ktBride

I would recommend that you politely declining if someone offers...especially because of the quick time frame.  Someone recently made a very casual offer to have a sprinkle for me and I told them that I had such a wonderful outpouring of support at my last shower I just wouldn't feel appropriate accepting anything else.  If they mention it again I'll suggest just spending the afternoon together which I would enjoy just as much as any gift someone would purchase me. 

I'm realizing more and more that some people really enjoy (and expect) sprinkles but from my experience the vast majority of people think they are tacky.  It's important to appreciate their generous offer while not agreeing to something that would make you feel uncomfortable.

kagl08

My 2 are 13.5 months apart. I would have felt horrible if someone had thrown me a sprinkle. I had a girl 1st and boy 2nd, so I could have technically used one but I would have most certainly declined.

No one offered, so it wasn't an issue for me... 

ktshafra

Thank you, thank you! This has eased my "fears" (not the best word but it works) and helped me feel more comfortable politely declining. Thanks!