Hello everyone I'm scared!

alohm045

My fiance and I just found out a few days ago that I'm pregnant. Craziness! We are getting married September 1st. Not in the plan whatsoever. We just started talking about having kids maybe in a year or two a couple of months ago. I was never even sure I wanted to be a Mom. I am in school right now and working part time. The first couple of days I was shocked. Yesterday I cried and felt like it was all my fault. We didn't use protection one time. I figured it was an unlikely time for me to get pregnant. I am usually really cautious and smart about things. I feel like I was really haphazard with all of this. I know things could be worse. I'm 30, we're getting married, my fiance is the most supportive man in the world. But I am scared to death. I am still in shock, I think. But the fear about the situation has also set in. I really still want to finish school. I feel like the timing of the pregnancy is just wrong. I also realize I'm not God . I've been reading posts on here and it's been helping. Thank you all for posting. If anyone has any words of wisdom, they are much appreciated!

BeagleBub

Congratulations... the 1st tri board may have some helpful information!

Erinm278

I understand that you are scared and overwhelmed.  It just needs to sink in a little bit.  There is no reason you can't continue working on your dreams and have a baby at the same time.  This baby must have just been meant to be!  Best of Lluck to you!

mina_mina1

its the most beautiful, awesome, nuts, unplanned thing that will ever happen to you.....congrats!!

mnfox7

Hello! When I read your post just now I got a really strong urge to just encourage you, as I'm in a similar position to yours!

I was going to the school of my dreams - to put it plainly - and had a job lined up upon completion of my degree. I'm highly ambitious and had a "life plan", a serious boyfriend, and thought it would all go as I intended....until I found out a week into second semester that I was pregnant. Because we were doing the long-distance thing I decided it was as good a stopping point as any to come home and be with my boyfriend through the pregnancy. Lots of other financial and insurance factors were part of the decision, too. We had known each other three years before making it official and dating for a little over a year, and so he surprised me and asked me to marry him about a month after we found out our news.

In the mean time, school plans have been put on hold, which has been the hardest thing for me to come to grips with. I've realized two important things, however....

First of all, if they're as big of dreams/goals as I say they are, I won't mind a detour along the way. The plan I had selected isn't the ONLY way to finish my schooling. There are cheaper, more flexible ways of obtaining my degree. All I had to do was discuss my short-term goals (i.e. get student debt so far paid off) and long-term goals (i.e. finish school) with my fiance' so I had someone to hold me accountable.

Secondly, a baby is a blessing, as I'm sure you know. I had someone point out to me in a tough-love sort of way, that while there are thousands of women struggling, praying and hoping to conceive, I've been blessed with my little one right now. I'm not saying you need any tough-love - I know the panic and fear you're feeling, and it's still very fresh in my memory - but I'm just sharing with you a piece of truth that woke me up to the reality of becoming a mommy.

On a smaller note, if you're worried about wedding dresses and baby bumps at all....it's a lot easier to disguise and work around than you might think

I wish the best of luck you to in your schooling, marriage, and pregnancy!! My T&P are with you.