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Clean Slate or Nod to Women Still in the Struggle?

If/When you have what we all want - a baby - will you be keeping a note in your siggy about your IF struggle, or will you wipe your siggy slate clean?  

I notice a lot of women on other boards mentioning their IF struggle but their siggy doesn't mention a thing of it... sometimes that bugs me, like they got their LO and they want to forget the struggle but they don't realize what a support it would be to IF-ers to see their struggle and their success(es).  Is that totally crazy? Thoughts?  

TTC #1 2+ Years with Unexplained IF
1st & Only BFP: 1st IVF w/ ICSI, 3dt of 2 7-cell, grade 2 embryos on 8/25/12
Beta #1 9/5: 87.2 BFP! - Beta #2 9/7: 248 - 1st US @ 6w3d Two Heartbeats! - MoDi Girls!
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    I don't think I'll keep the whole history listed, but I think I will mention it... like "After 2 years of trying, our little IUI/IVF/whatever miracle"
    TTC #1 2+ Years with Unexplained IF
    1st & Only BFP: 1st IVF w/ ICSI, 3dt of 2 7-cell, grade 2 embryos on 8/25/12
    Beta #1 9/5: 87.2 BFP! - Beta #2 9/7: 248 - 1st US @ 6w3d Two Heartbeats! - MoDi Girls!
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    I don't plan to remove my IF siggy.  Maybe I'll condense the monthly details.  But I intend, once I have a pregnancy that sticks, to trumpet from the roof about my IF struggle.  I don't want to "come out" yet -- only a few close friends and my family know -- because I don't want stupid advice.  But I will break the IF silence all by myself if necessary!
    * TTC since 2010; Me-36, DH-40
    * Diagnosis of PCOS in 2011 (suspected since teens)
    * Miscarraige September 2011; XY with Trisomy 15
    *November 2011 - January 2012 - 3 cycles of Femora - BFN x 3
    * 2/12 and 4/12 Tamoxifen - no response
    Planned to start Follistim for COH August '12 but...
    Surprise!! BFP! And it's a girl!!

    "He performs wonders that cannot be fathomed, miracles that cannot be counted." Job 5:9
    baby d'oh, no ID
    D'Oh!
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    MBJuneMBJune member
    I don't think I will remove it.  I feel like removing it means that I will forget what it took to get that far.  Not too many people IRL know about our Dx, but once we have a little one I hope DH is on board with telling people about IF and everything we dealt with.  (I know I haven't dealt with as much as some, but to me it feels like we are just beginning.)

    Dx: PCOS/Unexplained
    July '13 - Mar '14 - Letrozole and TI - BFN
    April '14 - HSG - All clear - Letrozole, Trigger and IUI - BFP
    May '14 - Miscarriage 5w 3d
    July '14 - Letrozole, Trigger and IUI - BFN

    Aug '14 - Letrozole, Trigger and IUI - BFN

    Sept '14 - Letrozole, Trigger and IUI - BFP

    Beta 1 - 87  Beta 2 - 193  Beta 3 - 441
    SA - All good
    ALL Welcome



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    katib77katib77 member

    I try to keep my siggy fairly short and to the point.  I'm sure if I ever get PG I will shorten it even more to "TTC Since July 2009.  Dx: Infertility MFI & LPD.  After 4 IUI got our miracle through IVF#1" - - that kind of thing.  But then I'm an advocate and love to educate people on it.  I can see some women after it's over, not forget about it...but to put it in the past.  To each there own.


    TTC since July 2009. Dx MFI & LPD. 
    IUI#1&2&3 (2011 & 2012) BFN
    IUI#4 1/23/13 on 75iu x9 Follistim = BFP then chem preg m/c (Feb 2013)
    IUI#5 BFN (April 2013)
    IVF w/ICSI Oct. 2, 2012 - 13R, 11M, 7F, 1 frozen blast 4BB grade - - - FET Nov 15, 2013
    BFP! Beta 1:104 @ 10dp6dt, Beta 2:178 @ 12dp6dt,  beta 3:366 @ 14dp6dt
    Saw heartbeat twice before missed M/C at 8w3d on 12/27/13, missing my little angel boy
    JUNE 2014 IVF#2;  5R, 2M, 1F Three day transfer 6/7.  Beta 6/18 - BFN
    Child Free Now?
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    imagejustplanelove:
    If I were open about it now, I think I would get defensive when people ask questions & that would hinder them learning about it.

    Exactly.

    * TTC since 2010; Me-36, DH-40
    * Diagnosis of PCOS in 2011 (suspected since teens)
    * Miscarraige September 2011; XY with Trisomy 15
    *November 2011 - January 2012 - 3 cycles of Femora - BFN x 3
    * 2/12 and 4/12 Tamoxifen - no response
    Planned to start Follistim for COH August '12 but...
    Surprise!! BFP! And it's a girl!!

    "He performs wonders that cannot be fathomed, miracles that cannot be counted." Job 5:9
    baby d'oh, no ID
    D'Oh!
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    I definitely will keep something about my struggle in my signature, though as others have said a condensed version rather than the month play by play.

    In real life, I will also be a lot more open about our struggle. I hope that one day I'll be able to give someone the help and support I wish I had through this.

    imageimage After 2 years of trying with PCOS, 7 rounds of Clomid/Femara, and 2 early miscarriages, we finally found success. :) Due on April 24, 2013! Beta 1 (16 dpo): 477, Beta 2 (19 dpo): 1568, Beta 3 (21 dpo): 3560 Aug 24 - 5w ultrasound - 1 8mm gestational sac Aug 31 - 6w ultrasound - 1 empty 15 mm gestational sac - possible blighted ovum - Beta 41,716 Sept 7 - 7w ultrasound - 2 sacs, heart beats, and fetal poles - TWINS!! Baby A measuring 6w4d, Baby B measuring 6w6d BabyFruit Ticker
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    I will also condense, but not remove it. That bothers me too when it's gone. There was a post on the multiples board about IVF recently and most of those who chimed in about their IVFs had no IF mention in their siggy :-(
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    Hmm...I've never paid attention to that. After all the struggle we've gone through, there's no forgetting that. I'll condense my siggy, but I want everyone and their pappy to know how hard we fought for our LO.

    **PAIF/SAIF Welcome**
    TTC #1 March 2010 - Nov 2012
    Me: 29, PCOS (anov), Hashimoto's Disease // DH: 30, normal SA
    3 Clomid, 1 Clomid/Menopur, 1 Menopur w/ TI (CX 4x's due to cysts) - All BFN
    1 Clomid/Menopur, 2 Menopur, 1 Follistim w/ IUI - All BFN
    RPL & Karyotype testing normal


    IUI #5 (12/1/12) --> Follistim + 1/3 hCG Trigger = BFP! EDD: 8/23/13
    Betas --> 61 (13dpo) // 156 (16 dpo) // 223 (18dpo) // 656 (21 dpo)
    U/S --> 5w0d - sac seen // 6w0d - hb detected // 7w0d - hb seen and heard, measuring 6w6d!
    8w6d - wiggly baby! // 9w3d - wiggly baby with fingers!

    Baby boy born 8/24/13

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    I've been very open with coworkers and friends about our struggle (and subsequently why this loss/starting over is going to be so hard and scary) - I don't think my sig should be any different. It's been a long, hard battle and obviously will continue to be hard - I think other IF folks appreciate hearing/seeing siggies that people are struggling similarly (at least I know I have).
    Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
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    I'll definitely say something about the years/# of cycles and if we end up doing IVF. Not sure if I'll include MFI but I might... It gives me hope to see success after MFI. 
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    TTC #1 since October 2010 | Began Testing in January 2012
    DH SA - low motility with 0% morph; varicocele (repaired); low T (on Clomid)
    IVF w/ICSI (long Lupron w/ Repronex and Follistim) in September 2012

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    I have to agree.  I'll take out the month by month play by play, but still leave how long it's been and whatever steps we end up taking to get our BFP.  I agree with you about the support it is to see it.  Sometimes when I see women posting their BFP's I go to theiry siggy to look and see what they went through and what finally worked, its a great encouragement some days.
    Unexplained infertility; TTC #1 for 5 years
    IUI #1; m/c;c/p 3/15/2012
    IUI #2: Clomid, ovidrel trigger, prometrium;4/5/12; BFFN; IUI #3, clomid and injects; Beta June 8th????
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    ShaylizShayliz member
    I'll take in the cycle info but leave my dx/what treatment worked. 
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    Like others, I will condense but not remove the info completely. I always appreciate seeing things like "after 3 IUIs, finally got our miracle baby" etc. It reminds me there are people who have gotten through this before.

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    I will definitely keep my IF struggles in my siggy in some way.  Also, just a side note, some boards have issues with longer siggies so depending on the board you frequent, that may be why pp don't list as much.  BUT, I definitely agree with your thoughts.
    TTC #1 Since May 2011 ~ Everyone Welcome
    Me (34): DOR d/t chemo/radiation, Immature Endometrial Lining, Hypothyroidism
    DH (35): MFI d/t testicular torsion and removal, Low T, Oligospermia, Anti-Sperm Antibodies, Currently on T supplements
    Sept '11-April '13 ~  Testing, failed multiple MFI treatments, saving & TONS of praying
    January 2014 ~ IVF/ICSI & PGS ~ no response to stims ~ converted to IUI ~ BFN
    February 2014 ~ On to donor embyros ~ 5 blasts!!! 
    March 2014 ~ FET #1 ~ Transferred 2 blasts ~ BFN
    July 2014 ~ Kliman's mock cycle with endometrial function test
    Sample too small for EFT, HE slide showed immature cells
    New protocol planned, saving for another biopsy for EFT
    January 2015 ~ Considering adoption options
    April 2015 ~ Privately arranged adoption of planned pregnancy
    DD#1 ~ Lillyana Violet Marie born 6/15/16, Finalized adoption 12/20/16
    July 13, 2018 ~ BFP....WTF?!?!
    7/16 Beta #1 ~ 466...7/18 Beta #2 ~ 1,077...7/23 Beta #3 ~ 5,291
    7/23 US #1 ~ 1 gestational sac seen and yolk sac
    7/30 US #2 and 1st OB appt ~ 1 perfectly round gestational sac, 1 perfect yolk sac and 1 teeny tiny heart beat seen!!!
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    MrsZ816MrsZ816 member
    I definitely want to keep some mention of IF in my siggy.  Whether I like it or not, IF is part of who I am and a big part of the journey to parenthood for DH and I. 
    Married 8/2009, TTC since 4/2010
    ME: 30, DOR- Low amh, normal fsh/afc DH: 30, morphology issue
    IVF #1- BFN
    IVF #2- BFP!!! Beautiful baby girl became an angel on 2/6/13 at 17.5 weeks due to PPROM/IC
    IVF #3- New RE... February March 2014! 8r/6m/6f. Transferred one and have one frostie! BFP! EDD 12/7/14
    **PAIF/SAIF welcome
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