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I know it's not New Year's, but...

s.alaries.alarie member
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here's my resolution:

I, s.alarie, hereby resolve to stop living in the "if I get KU'd this cycle" mentality. I have finally figured it out. It's been dragging me down, and it's gotta go. I am constantly making plans for IFs and possibilities, but I need to just make plans for today and deal with it if I have to change plans.

No more: "If I'm KU'd this cycle, we won't be able to go on vacation next summer," "this might be my last night to eat/drink **insert pregnancy no-no food/drink item here** if I get pregnant," and my favorite excuse, "why should I diet? I might be pregnant soon and I'll just gain all the weight back."

As of this morning, I'm getting back on track with healthy living, which now includes eating right, exercising, and a healthy attitude.

 

Thanks for reading my rambling. If you got through, here's a carrot. Ha. :)

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  • blessedhopeblessedhope member
    Good for you! ((hugs))
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  • KDS1987KDS1987 member

    Good for you! It is such an easy cycle to fall in to. I blame FF and their "If you conceive this cycle your EDD is _______"

    Good luck!!

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  • shellycoshellyco member
    imageKDS1987:

    Good for you! It is such an easy cycle to fall in to. I blame FF and their "If you conceive this cycle your EDD is _______"

    Good luck!!

    All of this!  Seriously, is there a way to hide that feature in FF?  Always gets my hopes up.

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  • sammer818sammer818 member
    I. Heart. You. You have just said everything I wish I could do. I hope your determination gives me the strength I need to live that way too!

    TTC since April 2010
    BFP #1 – March 2011, missed m/c April 2011
    BFP #2 – October 2011, m/c November 2011
    Surprise BFP #3 – December 2011, diagnosed as cornual, terminated January 2012
    BFP #4 – June 2012, m/c July 2012
    Diagnosed with bicornuate ute and MTHR gene mutation
    BFP #5 – October 2012, missed m/c November 2012
    BFP #6 – January 2013, m/c March 2013
    No longer TTC. Diagnosis: Hostile ute. Heartbroken and bitter. Pursuing surrogacy.
    June 2013 - Carrier found! Could this really happen?!
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  • KDS1987KDS1987 member
    imageshellyco:
    imageKDS1987:

    Good for you! It is such an easy cycle to fall in to. I blame FF and their "If you conceive this cycle your EDD is _______"

    Good luck!!

    All of this!  Seriously, is there a way to hide that feature in FF?  Always gets my hopes up.

    LOL yea I guess we could downgrade to regular FF? Or stop being obsessive... either one!

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    BFP #1 11/5/11 EDD 7/22/12 MC 11/14/11
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  • KpsbabyzoeKpsbabyzoe
    I like this.  Good for you!
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  • BOTB32010BOTB32010 member
    Good for you! ((hugs))
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  • JessicaRobbJessicaRobb member
    Good for you! I need to get on board with this program. It's tough but making a more conscious effort might help. Thanks for the inspiration!
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  • imwithrebelimwithrebel
    Good luck!
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  • pkarenpkaren member
    Good attitude! I could use some of that! I pretty much waver on a daily basis!! Although I'm not technically TTC yet, I keep thinking "ok if AF shows up "this date" and I get KU right away......etc, etc. Pass some carrots!
    BFP #1: 12/26/11, EDD 09/05/12; m/c discovered: 02/22/12 @ 12w u/s,
    D&C: 03/08/12 Waited for AF for 146 long days!
    Hysteroscopy/D&C on July 10th to fix blocked cervix (DX: Cervical Stenosis)
    BFP #2 12/8/12, EDD 08/21/13 Our rainbow arrived 08/24/13!
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  • Elle jMElle jM member
    Great idea!  I think I'm going to try to follow!
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  • theturthetur member
    Way to go!  (and I loved the carrot)
    BFP#1: 12/15/11 EDD: 8/21/12 Missed miscarriage @ ~8.5 weeks. D+C: 1/19/12
    BFP#2: 07/04/12 EDD: 03/14/13
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  • s.alaries.alarie member

    Thanks for your support, ladies. It's not going to be easy especially with FF obsessions, EDD calculations (I have a pregnancy wheel app on my phone; it's not just FF, I do it to myself!!), and the natural what-ifs.

    I'm 7+ months from my m/c, and I just can't stand to see the world keep spinning around me while I'm still stuck on would be/could be/should be. I gave myself a hard reality check--it's not, so move on. (In saying this, I am in no way trying to reality check anyone else. I was ready for it, and needed it. Please don't be offended!! You will be ready some day too.) 

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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member
    I think it is a great resolution.  I try not to focus on it, but I can probably tell you exactly what my EDD would be each cycle.  I hope I will be able to give that up as well.

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     TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)

    BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d

    BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13

    BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks

    BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby 

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  • lsuhoneybadgerlsuhoneybadger member
    I think that's an awesome idea! Good luck!
    BFP #1:  8/10/11 EDD: 4/9/12 Natural miscarriage @ 7 weeks: 8/20/11
    BFP #2: 8/31/12 EDD: 5/18/13 Chemical pregnancy: 9/4/12
    BFP #3:  5/17/13  EDD: 1/24/14 Loss at 5 weeks: 5/29/13

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    Lots of testing, all clear with the exception of compound heterozygous for the MTHFR mutation. 

    Cycle 1: Femara, trigger shot, Bravelle added due to slow response = BFN
    Cycle 2: Cancelled due to two cysts =(
    Cycle 3: Femara, Bravelle, trigger shot and IUI = BFP then loss #3
    Cycle 4: Femara, Follistim, trigger shot and IUI = BFP!  EDD: 6/7/14

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