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What a terrible past 5 minutes!

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1) Doctor's office called to tell me my HSG wouldn't be covered by insurance (which I already knew, but I think I was holding out hope that somehow they would code it something other than the dreaded IF and I wouldn't be OOP on the whole thing)

2) Literally as soon as I hung up, the insurance company called to tell me the HSG wouldn't be covered.  You wouldn't think it would sting twice, but the way the lady kept saying IF really hurt...

3) Got a text from my (former) BFF.  I haven't posted about her in a while, but she's the one that knows all about my loss and our current IF struggles, and was the one that announced her pg rather terribly back in February (after trying for a grand total of 2 weeks).  I told her, while I was super happy for her (she's been wanting to try since she got married 2 years ago, but her DH was hesitant), that it would be hard for me to talk to her about it.  And yet, ever since she's done nothing but complain to me about EVERYTHING.  Well, the text I got said "really wish I could drink because I could use a margarita right now."  Maybe if I hadn't just been through both insurance calls I would have been nicer, but my response was "not sure what you want me to say - I'd give anything to have that problem right now."  To which her only response was "I know."  Really?!?!?!?!  Then why'd you feel the need to tell me?!?!?!?!?!

Just like getting slapped in the face...3 times...in 5 minutes...  I hate Mondays Crying

Me (28): fine, DH (28): MFI
Married 6/21/09
Off BCP and TTC 4/17/11
BFP #1 (ended in CP) 7/15/11
Varicocelectomy surgery 9/4/12 - T improved to normal, but still low count

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  • jenn0021jenn0021 member
    Triple ouch. I'm so sorry. Sending you some giant ((hugs)). And I hate it when people are stupid and don't think before saying stuff. I wouldn't have been nice to her either.
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  • foxxy1foxxy1 member

    *HUGS*

    Is there any way you can appeal the HSG coverage or maybe get high-risk insurance to cover it? I apologize if I don't make any sense, just trying to give other suggestions.

    And side-eye to your former BFF. Hmm

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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member

    ((HUGS))  It really suckes that you have to pay OOP.  I had to pay OOP for my surgery last year and it added up to near $17,000.  We did have the money saved to pay for it, but it still stung.  The only bonus is that we actually qualified to decduct medical expenses on our taxes this year. 

    I am also sorry that your friend is being so incensitive.  I will never understand why people do not think before they speak.  (((MORE HUGS))

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  • s.alaries.alarie member

    I want to throat-chop any pregnant complainers. But someone who knows about your loss and IF?? Double throat-chop. Ugh. 

    I'm sorry for a terrible 5 minutes. ((hugs)) 

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  • rebekamrebekam member
    I am so sorry! sending you lots of HUGS today! I really think that some people need a filter.. I mean really!
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  • sammer818sammer818 member
    They say bad things come in 3's, so I hope the rest of your day goes A LOT better. *HUGS*

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  • SmootiepieSmootiepie member
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    *HUGS*

    Is there any way you can appeal the HSG coverage or maybe get high-risk insurance to cover it? I apologize if I don't make any sense, just trying to give other suggestions.

    And side-eye to your former BFF. Hmm

    I did a lot of looking over my insurance right after the HSG got scheduled (i.e. when I found out the large looming decrease to my bank account), and it pretty much sucks.  Anything even remotely IF related will not be covered.  No tests, no prescriptions, no treatments.  My only hope was if it got coded as something else, but I don't even know what else my RE could have put.  The insurance lady did say that sometimes you can pay extra to get some IF coverage, but I'm pretty sure my company doesn't offer it Sad

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    Married 6/21/09
    Off BCP and TTC 4/17/11
    BFP #1 (ended in CP) 7/15/11
    Varicocelectomy surgery 9/4/12 - T improved to normal, but still low count

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  • panacea05panacea05 member
    Yuck. Hoping the rest of your day is better!
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  • Spruce14Spruce14 member
    So sorry--what a crappy day. I think your friend deserves to be throat punched...not once, not twice, but once from each of us!!! That is just terrible. 
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  • EKGibsEKGibs member
    ((((hugs)))))
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  • kristina_1016kristina_1016 member
    Ugh! That stinks! Hopefully someone good happens to finish the day on a  better note!
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  • shellycoshellyco member
    I'm sorry about the insurance- that sucks!  And I'm glad that woman is a former-BFF.  My BFF also says some insensitive things and we have definitely started to go our seperate ways because of it.
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  • minicheezburgminicheezburg member
    Sorry sweetie, huge hugs. People are just dumb.
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  • BOTB32010BOTB32010 member
    ((Huge Hugs)) I am sorry.
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  • ChloBubChloBub member
    Ugh. I'm so sorry. You're right, it's just too much sometimes! ((((HUGS))))
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  • mistiffany28mistiffany28 member

    Ugh!  What an awful 5 minutes!! 

    I hope the rest of your day turns around!

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  • CCline09CCline09
    Ugh. Truly a sucky monday for you. ((HUGS))
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