Good morning! I mostly lurk here and read what's going on, but have a story that I know this board will especially appreciate. I am a FTM, but am having Little Pumpkin at a birthing center.
Anyhow, I mentioned that to a friend this weekend, and her response? Oh, you REALLY don't want to do that! Um, yes I do. I've done the research, and that's what I want! She went on about how great her c-section was, blah blah blah.
I was standing there thinking, Um, I'm not telling you all the reasons you shouldn't have been drugged and had a c-section!
Re: xp: know-it-alls
Don't you just love that? The only way that would make any sense would be if she had personally done it and had a experience so severely adverse that it warranted such warning. Even then, I wouldn't find sharing something like that appropriate unless I was asked.
Eh, just be happy that she is happy with her experience and move on. May be it's a defence mechanism.
Silly DH was arguing with me that birth centers don't take FTMs. LOL
My Ovulation Chart
It's super obnoxious, but I try to just let it roll off my back. I also try not to talk to people about my plans, unless I know they'll be supportive.
At my shower over the weekend, one of DH's aunts (who is crazy anyway) came up to me randomly and started telling me "get the drugs... no, seriously GET THE DRUGS! Don't even think twice, just GET THE DRUGS!" like right in my face. I don't think she's aware of my plans, and I haven't discussed them with her. But I just politely nodded and smiled, and then exited the conversation. I get that for her that's the "right" answer. Her opinion doesn't actually affect my birth experience, or the choices I have made, and getting into an argument with her over it isn't going to have a positive impact on any of it either. Instead, I figure I'll do what I've chosen, and then afterward if it comes up in conversation I can mention my experience and (hopefully) how much I was personally glad I did things the way I did. At that point, she can't try to talk me out of anything, as if I don't know better, because what's done is done.
Mama's Clone - 07/18/12
I'm going to a birth center too and DH's family thinks it's weird. They're all confused and asking how it works. "You don't get meds there? You can't even get an epidural? You don't stay a full day after?" Since I have had an educated response for all of their obnoxious questions it seems like they don't have anything left to say or ask. I'm sure that will change the closer we get to my due date.
It's funny because I had a home birth and people still ask me if I had an epidural. Um, no, you can't have drugs at home, hence why I did a home birth. But once you've done a natural birth, people will be more open to asking you questions about it and not be so judgmental. Well, most people anyway.