or why my LO?
DS was diagnosed with PDD-NOS and will be starting speech 3x a week and special ed 2x a week as early as next week.
I'm pretty okay with it, but I look at other babies and see/hear what they're doing/saying and often think why me and why us?
Am I alone?
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Re: Is it normal to think "why me?"
Not in the least. I'd venture to say that all of us have felt that way.
I would get very angry at first, wondering WTH this was happening to MY child, why my sweet, innocent, defenseless girl was going to have to struggle so much with ASD while other kids were just going to be able to do things without even thinking about them.
And that other parents could just pop out typical children without a care, without really worrying about having a SN child, or appreciating how lucky they were.
I think it's pretty typical. I still get jealous sometimes, but it's way better than it was at first. It's part of the grief process.
DD1, 1/5/2008 ~~~ DD2, 3/17/2010
DS was born with special needs. He screamed day and night for 8 months. I spent a lot of time in that sleep deprived state with my ears ringing crying about "why me" "what have I done to deserve this" "what has my child done to deserve this torture".
It's a stage of grief. Sometimes it still hits me that this is my life. That DS's needs will never end and this is going to be forever.
Grief is a long process, but please know, you are not alone.
Definitely not alone!
We are almost 2yr post diagnosis (CP) and I still think "why me/why LO" sometimes.
Yes.
You can also turn that around though and think "Why NOT me?"
okay that made me giggle a little. Sorry about the prom, that really does stink. And thanks for your comments
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Good point - I've thought about that too, but haven't really come to terms with it. Maybe DH and I are just the people to raise a child with special needs....maybe we have enough patience, love and understanding. Hmmm.
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It always hurts to see our kids "left out." I don't care if people want to call it a first world problem--it doesn't make it sting any less.
Umm, How awesome is that! This totally made me smile.
I cannot imagine that there is not a single SN parent who hasn't had the "why me" pity party. What is important is to pull yourself up by the bootstaps and realize that self-pity is not going to change or improve the situation so you get past it. We all have our weak moments---and sometimes it can be the smallest, most seemingly insignificant thing that throws us back to that place for a moment. Those are the times when it is great to come over here and vent. We've all been there and will be there again so we really do understand!
That sucks. That is what scares me the most- DS not getting to do (or enjoying/caring about) all the stuff that is a benchmark of growing up in the US. Prom doesn't define kids (hopefully!) but unrelated to your post, I was thinking about my junior and senior proms this morning, and the dresses I wore. It was a 5 sec mind-wander while putting in my contacts. Makes me so sad to think my kid may not get that, lame as that may sound.
We all go there every once in awhile. I know I have yesterday.
I took DS to Burger King to play on the jungle gym. After about half an hour on the jungle gym, he started crying. I had to go get him. Once I got him, he could not tell me what happened. I asked him if he was hurt and he kept crying. He would have shown me if he was hurt. After 15 minutes, I asked him if he wanted to play again. He said no.
I think I chalked it up that there was a kid that was mean to him. We left.
It's kind of funny--because that's how it started with DS1. He just was "colicky" so I thought--- cried and cried---never ever EVER slept--- and of course neither did I. I remember just crying myself ---but then thinking that someday it would get better....and it did in a way--but then a myriad of other issues ensued. Little did I know. Would I trade THESE issues for "those" ???? Not sure. LOL.
OP-- totally normal.
I feel jealous and angry sometimes. Sometimes in fact, I feel it towards my own husband who seems oblivious to the fact that any of this is actually happening. He just thinks that DS1 is going to "outgrow" it all. Ummm....ok. That helps me....thanks for the partnership.
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Notes:
Granted we are still getting new diagnosis (maybe that's why im so screwy in my grief process) with both girls. It is completely normal to feel that way. I have gone 2 years just 'dealing' with it (P is 2 1/2) but later this month I"m going to start seeing a therapist. Sometimes I just need to talk to someone who won't keep telling me the are fine and OK, sometimes I just want someone to agree that it really sucks and not think i'm psycho for feeling the way I do.
The smallest things will set us all back but all you can do is know that you are doing everything in your power possible to help your LO lead the best life they can. It really does get easier.