TTC after 35

It's just not fair...

I really should go no where near facebook when I am dealing with AF...

One friend posted pics of the diaper cake from her baby shower and another friend posted pics of her newborn dd..  

 I hate this I hate this I hate this I hate this I hate this I hate this I hate this

Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image

Re: It's just not fair...

  • And WHY is my FF chart showing 15DPO?? I am on CD2!!!!
    Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image
  • I'm so sorry Llama....all this BS is exactly like you said, it just isn't fair! I have been avoiding FB alot lately, not so many of my friends are getting knocked up, they are all mostly my age, but everyonce in a while there will be a friend of a friend that comments on an Ultrasound pic or something and BAM, there it is! And I hate to say it, but it makes me angry. Because it truly isnt' fair, not even a little.
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  • HUGS, Llama!  Need need to stay away from FB too.  And now maybe e-mail.  A dear friend that is due on 5/26 with DS#2 drop me a note saying she is scheduled for induction on my 39th birthday on 5/21.  Grrrr.....
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  • imagefingerscrossed72:
    I'm so sorry Llama....all this BS is exactly like you said, it just isn't fair! I have been avoiding FB alot lately, not so many of my friends are getting knocked up, they are all mostly my age, but everyonce in a while there will be a friend of a friend that comments on an Ultrasound pic or something and BAM, there it is! And I hate to say it, but it makes me angry. Because it truly isnt' fair, not even a little.

    Both of friends I mentioned ARE my age...which SHOULD give me hope but it just makes me more sad.  The one who just had her baby is older than I am by a few months and she got pg on her honeymoon (2nd marriage) without even TRYING.  

    And I am totally there with you on the "friends commenting on a ultrasound pic".  That seems to happen every day I swear my younger (by 14 yrs) sister has 500 friends who are ALL pg right now.  I love facebook and I hate facebook.

    Oh and to keep my pity party going.. the "Talk" show is on, which I never watch, but I had to because they are having a "Million dollar baby shower".  All the audience members get to take home each and every amazing baby item. 

    Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image
  • I know it sucks but just for some perspective, imagine if you had no kids. 

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • I hear ya on that, I will say I do have friends on facebook that I know are KU and they aren't posting pictures or even making comments about the pregnancy, just sending private messages to close friends.. I think that's kind of cool..

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    Me 41 DH 46  Not actively ttc, surprise BFP on 1/6/11! 4/1/11 m/c our sunshine at 16wks after complications from CVS test. TTC #2 **5th cycle 12/6/11 BFP! Missed m/c at 9 weeks 1/21/12, trisomy 14. Two Chemical PG 3/12&7/12
    ** BFP 8/16/12 beta #1 148! beta#2 407 beta #3 4000 u/s 9.10 1 lovely hb 126, Baby Boy is due 04/28/13!!
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  • So sorry Llama:(  I hate that you're feeling like this.
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  • I know how you feel. A friend of mine who's 39 got knocked up by accident this past November with #3! Her 2 other kids were conceived on cycles 3 of TTC. It took us a year of focused TTC, so stressful. And the other day I heard of one of DH's relatives who's older than me (I'm guessing at least 42) who's pg with #2. For years she didn't want any kids and bam! she got pg with #1 right away when she was 39-40 and now bam! pg again at 42 or 43. It's not fair at all. But like pp said, at least we already have one kid, right? I feel blessed in that sense.
    Me: 44 DH: 42. DS born healthy at 40 weeks 8/24/09. TTC since then with no luck or ART. Surprise BFP 8/6/14... MMC @ 8 weeks 4 days... Miss you everyday sweet baby angel.
  • I feel you.  Two of my friends are all over fb with ultrasounds, and 'it's a girl', blah blah blah...it sucks. I am happy for them but sad for me at the same time. It's so frickin' frustrating.
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  • This is one of the biggest reasons I don't have a face book account. Now if I can just avoid seeing pregnant ladies and babies then Imight just be okay! Hang in there, llama. We can all understand.
    TTC #1 since 2/10 Me 38 FSH 12.9 & AMH 0.16 DH 47, low sperm count due to meds. 07/11 We have sperm! 28 million, 70% motility, morphology 1% normal. 08/14/11 1st IUI unmedicated BFN. 09/11/11 2nd IUI w/ Femara + trigger BFN 10/14/11 trigger & Final IUI 10/16/11 BFN 10/21/11 Started acupuncture and loving it! 01/21 ET one embryo 6 cell grade C. Beta 02/02. BFN. Taking a much needed break. image
  • imageMrs.McIrish:
    I know it sucks but just for some perspective, imagine if you had no kids. 

    Ouch.  That stung a little bit.  Sorry if I offended you.  :(

    Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image
  • imageLlamamama:

    imageMrs.McIrish:
    I know it sucks but just for some perspective, imagine if you had no kids. 

    Ouch.  That stung a little bit.  Sorry if I offended you.  :(

    I hadn't even thought of that until McIrish mentioned it-- I have no kids, either. 

    Last night, MH and I were watching a TV show (Eureka-- total science geek show made by Syfy) and it had a little robot that the kids had to care for (like a baby) for their parenting class. MH and I were all goo goo over the damn robot (that didn't look like a kid, but like a robot) because that's how ridiculously much we are feeling the parental instincts kick in.

    There's no way it doesn't suck. I am just hoping I can be a little more considerate if/when I get a BFP. I'll post to FB but limit who gets to see those things...

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  • imageLlamamama:

    imageMrs.McIrish:
    I know it sucks but just for some perspective, imagine if you had no kids. 

    Ouch.  That stung a little bit.  Sorry if I offended you.  :(

    I'm sorry Llama. I know you've been trying for #2 for a very long time and that it is hard and you are sad. I was just pointing out what some seem to forget. 

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • One thing that helps me out a bit on facebook is turning off the comments of my friends so I don't see every time they post on someone else's sonogram, or baby pic. I can only take seeing that crap for so long. If you wanna do that then just hover over their name, clicks setting, and uncheck comments. 

    I was just happy this week that I finally got someone in billing at the hospital to talk to me about setting up a payment. I have to schedule my hsg, so they can open the account and I can start paying. We have to have 50% of it paid for before they will actually let me have the test and do payment plans for the rest. So even though I'll probably be scheduled to have it in the next week or so, I'll have to cancel the appt., pay them a couple of hundred bucks and then go back probably in a couple of months. So freaking dumb!!  

    When we first got married 15 years ago I was hoping for 3-4 babies, now if I can have just one I'll be more than happy.  

  • Hugs, Llama.  Sometimes Facebook can be a b!tch.
  • I'm so sorry for us all going through this heartbreaking effort. My sister and best friend are pregnant; best friend got pregnant the first month she tried, with her third. Sister is 42! 


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  • I just stay away from facebook all together.  I have an acount, I checkit periodically, upload pictures for my folks back home, but don't really bother with the rest of it. 

     Although I welcome the news about the success 40 somethings because right now any news is good news 

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    I'm sorry Llama.  I know how badly you want your LO to have a sibling.  Maybe you should just steer clear of FB for a while.

    On another note, I may have missed your post, but did you DH ever consent to and give his sample for SA?  If yes, how were the results?  I am still stalking your chart from afar and praying for you to get your BFP very soon.  ((HUGS))

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    I'm sorry Llama.  I know how badly you want your LO to have a sibling.  Maybe you should just steer clear of FB for a while.

    On another note, I may have missed your post, but did you DH ever consent to and give his sample for SA?  If yes, how were the results?  I am still stalking your chart from afar and praying for you to get your BFP very soon.  ((HUGS))

    Thanks for your support from afar!  :)

    At our last conversation, dh said he was "thinking about it" and wanted credit for at least doing that.  ha ha.

    I have mentioned it (not directly) a few times since AF arrived 5 days ago.  The other night he suggested that we just keep one of my daycare kids (he really has a soft spot for one in particular) and I knew at the time he was trying to keep the conversation light because to be honest I have been a whirlwind of emotions over the last week.  It took 3 days just to NOT cry if my mind drifted away from day to day tasks.  And if the subject of having (or not having) a baby came up--good grief I was a MESS, so I can't really blame the guy for avoiding the conversation this week.  :)  My hope is to have a SERIOUS conversation soon.  I asked him to bring home some info on our insurance deductibles so I can get a real idea of what OOP costs we would have.  THAT might be a deal breaker..

    Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image
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    Sending cyber hugs Llama.

  • I hate it too Llama.  I'm sorry you are feeling so sad and struggling.  :(
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