First an AW, then a question

ct103

AW: I'm getting a massage tomorrow morning!

The question: I get massages monthly (I have a Massage Envy membership I purchased shortly after my loss). For the most part, this has helped greatly. However, the last couple times I've gone I've had a really hard time relaxing and "sinking in" to it. In fact, last time I felt a bit panic-y, dizzy, and I had a little trouble breathing. Nothing serious, but uncomfortable nonetheless. I think it's clear that I'm just so full of anxiety and stress, I basically can't relax enough to even receive a massage. So, my plan for tomorrow is to tell the therapist I want a light and gentle massage because I'm feeling very sensitive. I also plan to just try to fall asleep right there on the table, instead of trying to regulate my breathing or focusing on the muscles he's touching. Any thoughts or similar experiences?

delino

I don't have any advice, but I hope you enjoy the massage!

sammer818

No advice, but I'm SUPER jealous! Enjoy your "me" time tomorrow!

Mom2anAngel2

sammer818:

No advice, but I'm SUPER jealous! Enjoy your "me" time tomorrow!

 THIS!!!!! 

LaTi07

I am incredibly jealous of the massages! I could totally go for one.

If you are feeling a lot of anxiety, maybe tell the therapist and see if they have any recommendations for relaxing. I know one therapist I went to spoke very softly and almost put you in a trance within a few minutes of the massage. Sometimes just having someone talk you through it can help.

ChloBub

Does your massage therapist know about your loss? I had a massage about 2 months after my loss, and I talked to her a bit about it, especially because that's where all my stress and anxiety was coming from. She suggested that I just completely let it all out during the massage - if I felt any emotion coming on, to cry it out, scream it out, sob, wail, whatever. I did, and I felt SO much better afterwards. I don't know if you feel comfortable doing that, but I'm glad she made that suggestion and that I took it. Good luck!

mama2j

When I've had a massage I try to relax my mind and body as if I'm going to sleep even before the masseuse comes back into the room. I usually tell her I will probably fall asleep, because I want to be able to zone out. I try to clear my mind of any outside stress and visualize being on a beach somewhere, or focus on the soft music. Not sure if that helps, but I hope it goes well and you can enjoy it!

misteezagirl

RosiePeare:

ChloBub:

Does your massage therapist know about your loss? I had a massage about 2 months after my loss, and I talked to her a bit about it, especially because that's where all my stress and anxiety was coming from. She suggested that I just completely let it all out during the massage - if I felt any emotion coming on, to cry it out, scream it out, sob, wail, whatever. I did, and I felt SO much better afterwards. I don't know if you feel comfortable doing that, but I'm glad she made that suggestion and that I took it. Good luck!

I think ChloBub's advice is really excellent! I'd also add to do whatever helps you feel comfortable in the morning before the massage--sleep in, sip your favorite tea, read a book, put on your most comfortable clothes. I often find that my body is controlled by my mind, so, if I can get my mind in a state of relaxation, my body will follow. 

 

I love this! and I hope your massage was excellent!