I hate that I always feel torn..

VikingQueen

My parents want me to finish school as fast as possible, I do as well cause I don't want to work here the rest of my life. This means I have to take classes during the day and leave for a little while cause I tried the online classes, and night classes and I forget about the online classes and most of my classes needed are not available at night.

I'm thankful that they let me leave for a couple hours a day to go but I don't hear the end of it either.. It's always like, well if you were here you would know what's going on, or your not here enough, blah blah blah, everyday I hear this and I'm just like well what do you want me to do?!

I just signed up for classes for Fall semester (Taking summer off because the parts department of the shop will be moving to a different building soon and I need the summer to organize and get it straight before I go back to school) and I'll be taking 3 hrs on MWTF and 6 hrs on Tuesday. I know I'll never hear the end of it and it's very discouraging when the people who have said they support me going back and will work around my schedule so that I can get in as many classes as possible, are trying to put me down and make me feel bad about leaving for a couple hours. I could cut my hours at school to be here at work more but that would mean probably another year or two of school on top of the 3 more years it should take for me to get my degree, which in turn will upset them more because it is prolonging until they can retire (my dad says he is retiring when I graduate and that he wants to do that as soon as possible)

I just don't know what to do.. Thanks for letting me vent a little and get it out. I know what I want is more important, what makes me happy, and that I have to try to stop trying to make everyone else happy as opposed to me.. but that's how I'm wired and either way I feel like they are disappointed in me..

sammer818

*HUGS* It's very hard when people say one thing, then do another...I hope they realize when you start your fall semester that you are doing this for YOU and that they should be happy you are working towards something that you want.

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benoitfan

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Oh VQ, I am sorry your feel stuck in the middle.  I think it's time for a little talk with the 'rents.  You need to tell them that you are trying to get your education as quickly as you can because you know that your dad wants to retire and that unfortunately in order to do that you have to take classes during business hours. 

Tell them that you appreciate that they are being flexible with your hours so that you can get your degree faster than if you worked more.  Tell them you know that it is a bit of a inconvenience to them now, but by working with you on this they are cutting down on the total amount of time it will take you to get your degree and that some short term pain will lead to a long term gain of earlier retirement for them.  Make sure you tell them they can't have it both ways, you can either work more and go to school less, thus taking longer to get your degree and postponing their retirement or you can work less, go to school more and graduate sooner.  Tell them you are happy to take either route, but you can't stand the b!tching about the route you are taking that they agreed on. 

((HUGS)) hang in there and try not to worry about the fall semester til the fall.

Mom2anAngel2

I think that you need to do what ever is best for YOU!  It does suck that you are being put in a difficult position and hear about it, no matter what decision you make.  But just remember that you need to make the decision yourself and not allow anyone to push their thoughts on you.  ((HUGS))

Eveanyn

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VQ, you're an amazing woman. You do what's best for YOU. I'm sure that your parents will be proud of you no matter what. (((HUGS))) We love you.

Atleighdan

I am sorry your parents make you feel this way. I just want to provide you with some encouragement to take your classes and finish school. I am sure your parents will be proud of you when you are finished-especially if your dad is waiting for you to graduate to retire!! And if they are not proud and supportive enough, we will be!! GO VQ!

VikingQueen

Thanks ladies.. just so frustrating sometimes lol I want to finish school as soon as possible.. yes 18 hrs of school a week and 40+ hours of work are week are so hard but I know it's whats best and will help me in the long run. I just don't want to be doing this still 5 years from now lol. I thin I'm gonna sit them down and tell them how I'm feeling. The stress of school and work is enough for me, I don't need to be stressed out about how they are feeling or worrying I'll be walking into a blow up one day when I get back from school cause they think I'm gone too much.

Thanks for the advice and hugs ladies. I don't know what I would do without you all.

mrsgaines100

Do what is best for you, as pp said!  However, maybe a straightforward chat with them about what is in your head about this may help.  Hugs V!

LaTi07

Tell them that getting an education is just as important to you as it is your family and you won't sacrifice this. A lot of people run their mouth because of regrets they have about their own life or are purely doing so out of jealousy. Don't cut back on school! Just hunker down and get it done love.

klbowie

My recommendation would be to sit down with your parents and explain the two options the pro's and con's of each.  Have your parents decide what they think would be best (I'm guessing from what you said they will want you to do the more hours and finish sooner.).  Then later on if the start to *** I would kindly remind them this is the option they chose because it was best for every.  I think this way it is put on your parents and not you.  So they can be held accountable for their choice.  However, if you think your parents will go the longer route then this probably isn't a very good suggestion.  GL!  And like you said, you have to be number one if your life.  Make yourself happy first.

shellyco

I think every time they indicate that you missed something at work because you were at school, remind them that they encouraged you to finish school too, and you can't do that without missing some work.  Frankly, they're lucky that you even help them out at all.  School is my full time job, I cannt imagine going from work to school and back again. 

CCline09

Just wanted to send you ((HUGS)) as that is a tough spot to be in, especially if you really don't know for sure what will make you happy.