For the first almost 2 years of DS's life, I did all night times. DH "tried" to do some nights in the beginning but it was an epic fail. He's a bear when he's awakened and it was just a mess all around.
About a month or two ago, I started cuddling DS to bed (he's been weaned since 18mo) and after he's asleep, DH takes him to his crib. We have been alternating night duties. However, on the nights that I'm "on" and DS wakes up, as soon as he knows it's me, he wants to get in bed with me. Even though he's weaned from eating, he's not weaned from the boob. He still cuddles them and has to touch them. With me being almost 7 mo pregnant, I can only lay in one position for so long and then I need to adjust. So, needless to say, no one sleeps well when it's my night. When it's DH's night, DH just tells him to go back to sleep and DS does. He used to ask "Do you want to get in bed with Daddy?" and DS usually said no. Even on the days he does want to get into bed with Daddy, they both sleep. There is no nipple harassment, tossing and turning, etc. They're both out like lights.
So, after a few particularly terrible nights when I was totally drained the next day, I told DH that I need him to take over all night duties. I just can't risk being sleep deprived. I have a long commute to work, I'm pregnant, I've already put in 2 years of sleep deprivation and I've got another 2 years ahead of me when this LO comes in July....
DH thinks I"m being a total beyotch and he's pretty much furious about it. He keeps trying to give me the baby monitor. Last night, I asked "do you keep forgetting or are you trying to tell me no?" I was calm. I really wanted to know if this was his way of saying "I refuse to take over night duties". He just stormed out of the bedroom
So....Am I being a night-nazi or am I asking for something reasonable from DH?