Hello Ladies,
Haven't been on here in a really long time. Mostly been so busy with moving on with my life. But I do have a question. My STBXH and I live three hours apart. Our biggest issue is a visitation schedule for our two children, 3 and 1. I refuse to meet him halfway for drop off and let the children spend more than one night away from me. I would like for him to only have every other weekend day visits. I have been told by a lawyer that the judges in my area ususally only go for that type of visitation for children of their ages. I want my children to see their father but not disturb their lives any more than possible. Am I being too strict or should I let him see them for longer periods?
Re: Visitation Question
Given the distance you are from your X, I don't see anything wrong with EOW overnight visits, for one night.
If there's one thing I've learned from all of this, there isn't ANYTHING convienient about co-parenting. Is it a PITA to let our children go with the other parent EOW and "disrupt" our schedules? Yes. But it's also our job as the custodial parent to foster a positive relationship between our child(ren) and their other parent.
Exactly the bolded section. Judges generally will make the parties split the transportation, even more so when it's a 3 hour drive. If you have a financial burden, the Judge will tell you to figure something out.
Given the distance, I think overnights EOW is perfectly reasonable. Especially since you're unwilling to participate in the transportation. Think of it this way: you want him to have only daytime visits and for the sake of argument we'll say 9 a.m to 7 p.m. That's 10 hours each day. But you want him to drive 3 hours to pick up LO and 3 hours to drop off LO. So now 6 hours of his 10 hour visit are being spent in the car. Hardly seems fair, right?
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