It's been over a year

brockerln

It's been over a year since my ectopic and about a year and a half since my spontanous abortion.  I'm in my late 20's and it's absolutely killing me watching all of my friends have babies so easily.  I really want to TTC again, I have an appointment later this month to meet with a new GYn for my annual exam.    I was thinking of asking her to get my tubes tested (I had methatraxate shots for my ectopic) but I am a bit apprehensive to go through that pretty invasive testing.  I was never really at risk for an ectopic--not a smoker, no PID, no STDS, etc... so I cannot fathom what even caused the ectopic in the first place--the doctor just said "bad luck".  I still feel a small pain when I ovulate from that side and and the subsequent period as I think there may be some scarring from the ectopic.  I don't know, I'm kinda ranting, but I just really want to voice my concerns somewhere.    Bottom line is I want to try again but I am so scared of going through that ecoptic crap again.  That time, since it was my second pregnancy loss, I wasn't even as heart broken about losing the baby as I was about soemthing being medically wrong with me and concern about getting it taken care of.  

 

 Anyone else have these feelings?

killian09

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I am there with you in a sense--1 natural mc, 1 ectopic pg. it's horrible to feel like something is wrong and not have any answers. And I'm also in my late 20s with no risk factors. It's hard knowing that I did everything I could and my body still messed up. Sigh. 

 I asked my gyn if an HSG was warranted and she said she would like us to try for 6 months to conceive, and come in for that and other testing if it wasn't working at that point. She explained that even with a blocked tube, many women still get pregnant because the other tube should still be open. There is a small infection risk an HSG plus radiation exposure to your ovaries/pelvic area, so I feel comfortable not pushing for the test if my doctor doesn't think it's indicated and likely to help st this point. 

Anyway you should definitely talk to your doctor about it--your situation may be different. I just wanted to share my experience. I have my FX for you.

I'll add that my doc is letting us pursue repeated miscarriage testing despite the fact that the ectopic pg is not related to the factors on the testing panel. She didn't think it was likely to be clinically relevant, so she didn't recommend it per se, but she said if it would help us cross things off the list to worry about, then she would understand and order it. We decided to go forward with it since its just blood work.

 *sorry for the typos. I'm bumping from my phone.  

LSzwaya

I am sorry. It is so hard to look back and think about how much time has gone by and how you still don't have your take home baby. I go through that all the time. I remember with each loss I worried more and more about what the heck is going on in my body. I am hoping your annual exam brings you some answers. 

Mom2anAngel2

I don't  have any experience with ectopics, but I think that your fears are justified.  Anyone who has had a loss experiences the fears of a repeat loss.  I do feel that you should discuss your history and concerns with your doctor.  Even if you do not want to have invasive testing done, at the very least, you could start by having your hormones checked. 

I am so sorry for your losses.