Hi ladies!! I'm not sure if this is the right board for this, but it seemed like the most appropriate choice. We just found out our son will be born with a bilateral complete cleft lip and palate. We declined the amnio so we won't find out if it's isolated or part of a genetic syndrome until he's born. Just wondering if there are any other cleft mommies on the board? I'm pretty active on my BMB but since his diagnosis I suddenly feel like I have so much less in common with everyone - while everyone else is planning nurseries and registries, we're interviewing craniofacial specialists and touring hospitals.
Anyways - just looking for another "community" TIA!!
Re: Any cleft mommies here?
Aw, happy birthday to your sweet boy. My DS will be 2 tomorrow - so just a couple days apart We live in the Capital area, so we are leaning towards Children's National Hospital, but there is another great option (Fairfax) that we need to check out too.
How did your son's palate surgery go?? How old was he when he had his lip surgery? They did a fantastic job - he's adorable!!! Did he use a NAM or Latham device?
Proud Mama to cleft cutie
Rsd - I'm sure your son will be in great hands in Boston! Although I can imagine it would be hard to leave a team of doctors he's been with from the beginning. Was your son's cleft isolated, or part of a syndrome?
I'm worried I'll be a wreck because DS was the easiest, most low maintenance baby. Breastfed like a champ, slept great, and has generally been very healthy. I know this experience will be a lot different in comparison - especially in regards to feedings. I'm pretty bummed about not being able to breastfeed, but hoping that pumping works out.
Proud Mama to cleft cutie
His palate repair went great. His plastic surgeon was very happy with how everything went and the way that it all came together. He was just over 5 months went he had his lip repair. He used the NAM and we started that when he was 6 weeks old. His orthodontist at Seattle Children's was very pleased with the progress in the early weeks. His palate would move 1-2mm each week and was coming along beautifully.
Then we had an allergic reaction to the tape and left it out for a couple days. It wouldn't go back in so we had to have a second one made. That one worked for a couple weeks before we had another bad reaction to the tape. We finally decided that the NAM just wasn't for us and that we should move forward with surgery asap.
His plastic surgeon and orthodontist were very understanding and we set a surgery date for October 7th. I went absolutely great and just 8 hours after surgery he was smiling and eating like a champ. Here is a progress photo of what he looked like before surgery, the day after and then 6 months after.
Proud Mama to cleft cutie
Rsd - I know I will hate pumping too - especially when I have to go back to work. And chasing after a two year old, keeping a newborn happy, and pumping every two hours will definitely be a challenge.
Judging by what they can tell from the u/s, he will most likely need an appliance of some kind. His cleft is looking pretty wide, but I guess you never know 100% until they are here. I'm really nervous about the bone graft - it never dawned on me (until after some scary dr.google research) that they would need to harvest bone to repair hard palate and/or gum line. I'm sure your son is going to do amazing - it must be so great for you to look back at all the progress he's made over the last several years. I'm already proud of my little guy, and he's not even here!
Proud Mama to cleft cutie
Hi there,
My daughter was born 01/01 with a bilateral cleft lip and palate. We have been doing the NAM process since she was about 3 weeks old and are scheduled for surgery 06/22. I was terrifed when I found out, imagining the worst but so far it has been much, much easier than I thought. She eats great, is growing well, the NAM is the BEST decision we could have made, her progress is unbelievable. Although it's definitely a huge commitment and can be challenging, the results are beyond what I could have imagined.
I told some mom's here a while back that if you decide to go with the NAM, look into a skin-prepping ointment or liquid. It has saved our girl's face, we haven't had rash issues, her skin is in fantastic condition and it helps the base tape stay in place. I would be more than happy to dig out a link if anyone is interested. I think it was like $11.
Good luck to all of you!
Proud Mama to cleft cutie
Stupid computer, wouldn't let me type.
That's terrible about his skin, just what you need is something ELSE to worry about, right? We have been very lucky with our girl, and I thank my lucky stars everyday. We were given a recommendation to use DuoDerm by a friend, a more heavy duty base tape, flesh colored and SUPER thick. It really did a number to her skin. Just goes to prove what works for one, won't always work for another.
We went to her weekly dentist appointment this morning, for adjustments to her "appliance". I am SO over it today, she had a major meltdown and it breaks my heart to have to put her through that. I just have to keep telling myself, its just 7 more appointments and then surgery and it will be calm for a while.
Sorry it turned into a vent, but you guys are really the only ones who understand.