But what do I know...

machole513

Seriously! I am not sayng I am some expert in IF (But pretty well educated esp bc of you ladies) But I def know what I'm talking about..TTC for 3 years and seeing (my 2nd) Re for the last year(9 medicated cycles and on 6th IUI).

My friend who was married in August has "not been trying but not preventing" since then. She has insisted she knew she would have a problem so I advsd her to start charting/temping ect. She decided to just use opks and never would test at right time and nevre got a +. I told her she obv is not ovulating. So she went to her OB.

And of course she just puts her on Clomid even before getting her BW back! Tells her to have sex every day for 8 days after she stops her last pill. And get this shes NOT BEING MONITORED!

I of course tell her all the info from here, how she should be monitored and how can you be prescribed anything w/o getting B/W back. and she told me she appreciates the advice but her OB isn't concerned and if it doesnt work then she will see and RE after a few months...

So whatever...what do I know right?(Obvioulsy I'm very annoyed, and I must mention this is the friend who constantly makes rude/hurtful comments all the time...such as "I'm so proud of you not geting your hopes up each month that you will get pg" "I am so dissapointed in myslef like i'm a failure cuz I'm not pg yet, so I said if your a failure what am I? She responded with..."In the same boat as me(failure)"

:End of vent:

amyfelice

So sorry! What is B/W? That is lame but if she doesn't listen that is her own problem.

machole513

Sorry I abbreviate bloodwork as b/w

Jezebell26

Oh honey you are preaching to the choir here! I know exactly how this feels and it makes me soooo frustrated!!!! All you can do is say your peace and leave it alone. I dont get why everyone is in a hurry these days. Why do people WANT to have to take fertility drugs? Sorry you have to deal with this friend and I hope you can put some distance between you two before she drives you nuts! GL!

megs3084

It sounds like she was being managed how I was.  My OBGYN stuck  me on clomid before getting my cd3 bloodwork back, said to have sex for the 10-14 days after the last pill & for my D to have an SA.  If he did the workup first, he would have seen that we're MFI & shouldnt be having sex everyday.  How frustrating!

imwithrebel

I'm sorry. I've had to learn (in life, not just IF) to say what I know is right and then comfort myself with the fact that I've done all that I can do if they choose not to listen to me. I'm still learning that.

Jezebell26:

Why do people WANT to have to take fertility drugs?

Because they're impatient and view it as a "quick fix".