very little patience

lrichmond86

Do you find that you have very little patience these days??  I am shocked at times how much patience I have with my kids at school and then how little I have for everyone else in the world.  For example, we were supposed to close on our new house tomorrow.  It's been pushed back 3 times now (totaling over 2 months).  Everyone involved seems to be completely incompetent except for me and DH.  It's a good thing DH is handling the communication with everyone because I feel like I would say something that would lose us the house if it were me! 

I guess a little part of it is kind of a feeling of entitlement... feeling like we've been through enough already and just wanting something to be easy for once.  Sometimes I find myself thinking "Don't these people know that our baby died?  Why don't they want to help us?!"  And then I remember that, although there are many people who care deeply about us and what happened to our baby, there are many more to whom it makes absolutely no difference at all.  Grr.  I'm just very frustrated with everything and needed to vent.  Thank goodness for all you ladies.  I don't know where I would be without this forum!

barrona

I 100% agree with you! I work in the hospitality industry and seem to be losing my patience a lot with people lately. I mean, how can I care about flight and hotel arrangements for these people when my baby has died?? I don't care if they get what they want; it's so unimportant in my eyes. I'm sorry you are having these feelings too, but at least we know we aren't alone. Big ((hugs)) and good luck with closing on your new home!

mollywobbles13

I fully understand about the feeling of entitlement. I've been trying to pretend like I don't feel that way, but holy cow I do! Sometimes I find myself wishing that anyone I come in contact with just knew what happened so they would be a little more... caring I guess. I also find myself wanting to rip into people who irritate me. Mostly people who I at one time were friends with. The life they live pisses me off and I feel like they need to know how dumb they are. I always hold back, but one day I swear all this pent up aggresion is going to come out. I hope everything works out and you close on the house VERY soon.

ehlersm

lrichmond86:

I guess a little part of it is kind of a feeling of entitlement... feeling like we've been through enough already and just wanting something to be easy for once.  Sometimes I find myself thinking "Don't these people know that our baby died?  Why don't they want to help us?!" 

I totally feel you on this! I often think this even about people who probably have no idea what we've been through.

weddedwife

I am guilty of being very judgmental of others since our loss. The silly, stupid things they post on facebook, the selfish things people say and do. And part of me thinks, "Yeah, I get to judge".

pb127

Yes!! I get impatient and angry so easily these days! Every day DH comes home to a very angry, pissy wife. I hope it goes away soon, it's exhausting.

fluttergirlmoonchild79

Everything everyone has said.  My DH and I actually talked about this the other day.  We find especially around our "dates" that we're both very irritable and easily frustrated with others and each other.  At least now we know it with each other so when one of us screams at each other or whatever we know that neither of us meant it.  I too feel "entitled" sometimes.  I think it's normal.  Hoping you close on your house soon.  {{HUGS}}

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tuscanbride2007

weddedwife:

I am guilty of being very judgmental of others since our loss. The silly, stupid things they post on facebook, the selfish things people say and do. And part of me thinks, "Yeah, I get to judge".

Amen!

jbranden12

Yes to all of the above! The entitlement, and the judgement. I don't want other people to be in pain, but I wish they would understand ours a little more. I feel that if they did, they would be nice. But maybe not. It's amazing how self-centered people are and that can make them oblivious to the feelings of others. But then I think, I'm sure I have been like that too, and I probably will be again.

foxxy1

I know how it feels. I officially have no filter anymore. Not that I didn't have a big one to begin with but I definitely don't have, period. It sucks because you know it's a part of the grieving process but no one prepares you for this.