This drives me crazy (rainbow pregnancy related)

Petunia844

I'm on another forum as well, for preeclampsia mothers, and there are lots of women on there who have lost a baby due to the disease, but then there are those whose babies were lucky and are doing well.  The posts that these women make whining about stupid sh*t like "what do you do if I have to go on bedrest?? I have other children!"  I seriously want to write back "b*tch, if going on bedrest and taking care of my healthy son was my only concern I'd be the happiest woman in the world."  They also say stupid things like about how they don't know if they can do what their doctor says... to which I want to say "You do realize that LOTS of babies die because of preeclampsia right??? Just because your last one didn't doesn't mean you can be an idiot!"

Sorry.... I just needed to vent.  The forum has a lot of good info, and like I said other loss mamas who understand fear of loss combined with fear of pre-e...but women like this just drive me up the wall.

hoping4more

I am sorry. Is there a way yoy can politely remind them that many of you lost babies due to this and that some of thier comments are hurtful? 

littlepenguin2012

Petunia-  I so agree with you, that is one of the reasons I find it really hard to be on that forum.  I like how nice everyone is, usually, but the whining gets to me and the people who got to keep their babies just don't seem to get it at all.  I am sorry this is frustrating you today.

blessedhope

((hugs)) I'm not pregnant with my rainbow baby yet but I understand because I hate hearing people whine about taking care of newborns...

weddedwife

Well, I've never had pre-e. BUT I will say that if I had to go on bedrest in any pregnancy I would gladly do it if it increased my odds of having a healthy baby. And I DO have a 2 year old, and yes it would be very, very challenging. But we would figure it out, and would do whatever we needed to do to make it work. Those whiny women would piss me off too.

pb127

Pisses me off too!! I get so upset seeing that other moms got to take their LOs home and I didn't for the same condition. And then to COMPLAIN about bedrest in subsequent pregnancies to prevent this condition??  Boils my blood!!  I deserved to take my DS home too!

fluttergirlmoonchild79

I hate that any of us have to deal with this.  I always say that I'm envious and also pity people's ignorance.  I would think prior pre-E moms would have a bit better of a perspective but apparently I'm wrong.  I think we all just have a different perspective on life that sadly others don't but we wish they did.  Stay strong.  Wishing you nothing but the best with your rainbow.  {{HUGS}}